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writes: What can I do when a boyfriend tells me that he needs to stay away for a while because his situation is bad? (He is being evicted, two months past due on every bill including car) He said that it is not another woman and that I should let him get himself together because he is angry at the position that he put himself in and he doesn't want to take his anger and frustration out on me.
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (21 May 2006):
 Sounds like he's being honest and sincere with you, and I'd give him some breathing space to do what he has to.
As long as he's told you the details about his finances and you're confident that that's the truth, it would be smart and kind to allow him to fix the problem.
I'd let him know that you appreciate his candour, and that you want to give him moral support whenever he wants it. Be sure he knows that you regard this period as a hiatus, not a breakup, and tell him that you want him to contact you as soon as he feels he's able (assuming you do).
Lots of people have bad periods in their lives and need some time to sort things out, so don't take this personally. I think your boyfriend is being transparent and honest with you.
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reader, matron +, writes (20 May 2006):
 Hi, i would respect his wishes. He has a lot of problems to sort out and its really difficult to give your partner any kind of attention when so much is going round in your head. He is doing this to protect you and the relationship, let him know that you will be there for him whenever he needs you, that you respect his honesty and him as a person and that if you can help in any way you will. Ask if he would mind you texting him every so often just to let him know you love him. Just let him know that you understand and support him in any way you can. Ask someone who knows him well and that you can trust to look out for him, he will need a friend right now, he needs to know there is light at the end of the tunnel cos all he sees is a big black hole. Dont take it personally, atleast he's been honest with you bless him.
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