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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend of a year and a half told me that he feels insecure that he is so secure in our relationship. He freaked out because he thought that I was going to be the one he married and that was it (we're really young and def not looking to get married anytime soon or anything). The future is really scary but he told me that at some point in the future he wants to break up so he can be independent, young, and alone before he or we get married. Is this bad?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2011): I can understand his thinking, to some people it's important that they get to know themselves as an individual. So much growing and learing happens in the next few years of your lives, he probably wants the freedom to do it on his own in order to choose the right path.
If it's some time in the distant future I shouldn't worry too much, you can figure it out when it's a more imminent threat. But when the time comes, if he wants to be independent then don't stand in his way, and if it's meant to be then he'll come back to you.
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