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writes:My boyfriend and I have been dating for awhile now. Well, he's very overprotected now all of a sudden. He says that he cares alot for me, worries about me, and basically want me to himself. He doesn't really like me talking to other boys because he "doesn't like me getting closer to another boy." When I get a text from a boy, I would have to ask my boyfriend for permission to text them back. I mean, I know he's not a bad guy but it's weird now because all of a sudden this happened. He hates me sitting and talking to another boy. He gets very jealous and then gets mad saying he wants to kill any boy who would dare try something with me. I don't know, is this a situation I need to be worried about? At first, it was kind of cute like "oh, he cares for me! (:" but now..it gets frustrating and annoying. What should I do? _
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMe and him have been together for 7 months. I don't know, we talked about it but he just keeps saying that he cares for me alot and worries about me. Saying he knows how boys are and they most of them now a days want something for girls. Says im too nice and how they could take advantage of me. But it's like he's trying to cut men out of my life.
For this, it's like, he really does care and I also kind of feel bad that I make him worry by talking to other boys. But then again, it's impossible to cut off boys from my life. I don't know that it's even that possible to try to do that.
This seems to be the fight that gets brought up the most. We're texting right now and he says that im the first girl that he has these kinds of feelings for so he's new to this and he doesn't know really how he should react, he just reacts. I'm new to this also, I don't know how to react to his reaction.
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reader, be11is +, writes (7 January 2010):
 My friend actually just got herself out of a relationship like this. She basically told me that it was perfect the first month, and than it just started getting way out of hand after that.
At first he told her who she could and could not talk to and than he started getting violent. Wanting her all to himself. What I would suggest if you really like him, is to talk to him about how you feel. Maybe hes feeling insecure? Or maybe he heard something?
However, if things just seem to get worse I'd suggest to get out of it. Being tied down to something like that just gets worse, not better.
Wish you the best of luck; Update if anything happens.
xoxo
-B.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2010): this is definitely not healthy && I think you need to talk to someone about it before it gets too far.
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