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writes:My BF and I once broke up about 6 months ago, and after two months later he came back. During our being apart, he had some relationship with one of his exes - not sure it was a relationship or just sex. His ex wanted him back when we were broken up, but he didn't get back with her -- instead he came back to me. After that, I can see that he is trying hard to be a good boyfriend to me - he never took me around when he hungout with his guy friends, but now he takes me all the times; he also tries to call me everyday, which he didn't before; having me sleep over at his parent's house on weekends, which he never did before and so on..I guess I am pretty satisfied with the way he has changed, but at the same time, it made me wonder why then he had the relationship with his ex when we were not together. It sometimes hurts me that he slept with her, although he didn't officially cheat on me at that time. Did he need some kind of closure with her? Or was he not so sure of us and so sleep with her to make sure if I am the one? I am just really confused about why the hell he slept with her, before coming to me and being the committed caring boyfriend, which he was not before.
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reader, Wreck +, writes (20 June 2009):
 maybe he realized how much he liked u during that time apart.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2009): I think you should focus more on the now of things and appreciate the fact that he has changed for the better, almost 180 and I can very well say, not many guys can do that. If you keep allowing yourself to stray into these thoughts, you will end up hurting him and yourself...something which by my eyes isn't needed in this case.
I don't think the things he did were necessarily revolving around "Her"... some guys just need a wake up call to realize what they have been doing wrong , and realize how good they had it. In this case he had that experience and to add something more, he even changed or at least is making an effort. At the very least, you can't really demand to know why, since that was a period you 2 weren't together, you should not be bothered by it, most people have rebound relationships after breaking up.
I hope this helps some. All the best!
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