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writes:Ok, so my boyfriend of 8 month went over to Colombia to visit his family for 2 month (all summer). The funny thing is that none of us currently have a phone (Well I do have one that i use with WIFI but I haven't activated it for more than 1 YEAR , and he didn't brought his phone colombia) So knowing that i decide to buy a Skype Offer which let's me call him directly to the phone of the house, and I have only talked to him like 3 times (because his busy, or tired or whatever). The thing is that yesterday I asked him through facebook chat that I wanted to video chat with him and he replied saying: "OH, it's really late and please you should give me my own space, you're are not the only one, I have family here and stuff to do so please, I'm going to bed bye" ... (even though he is right at some point) I got pissed, it's not that I've been stalking him, I do give him his space, We only have talked like 3 times, and I only asked for a Video Chat just to see him (because he haven't send one picture of his trip) so why is he like that?... I didn't say nothing all i replied was: "Ciaoo Good night"... The thing is that now going to give him all the space that he needs, I'm planning to not send any message and ignore him all month, do you think is a good idea and will make him miss me and wanting to talk to me? Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2013): I'm a Colombian woman, born and raised. Honey, phones, Internet and communication services are widely spread, used and available in Colombia. (Brownie points for spelling it correctly!) Is quite rare for a Colombian male to ask for space, and if he did then you shoukd respect it. We call clingy people "intensos" which means literally "intense" as in too clingy or ooverbearing. It's a total turn off in our culture, so do not take it personally. Take this as a chance to pursue your own hobbies and passions. Nothing sexier than an independent woman, so yeah ignore him. Do not cling to him or ask him to chat. Let him do his thing, and enjoy the summer by yourself or with friends and have an awesome time so you ddon't miss him one bit. Let him miss you and pursue you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2013): give him the space he asked for and then some. If you have only talked to him three times like you said there is no reason for him to behave that way! He is your boyfriend he should understand that you'd want to talk to him and he should be wanting to do the same.But when my boyfriend is with his family or on some type of trip, I do usually do things on his time. I don't text him unless he text me, I do not call him I let him call me, I only Skype when he ask too because he's with his family. Family comes first...And he does things on my time when i'm with my family. We understand that we may not get to talk to each other as much but, to be completely ignored is not an option!He could of definitely handled the situation better though so give him all the time he needs and let him know you will not be treated like that. Let him chase you, like mentioned before!I hope this helps.
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reader, Denise32  +, writes (20 June 2013):
 While its true that he is busy with visiting family, this sounds as if he's backing away from your friendship with him.
You'd do better to not contact him at all (not just wait for a month). Let HIM chase YOU and wonder why he hasn't heard from you. Unfortunately, I have to say don't be too surprised if he doesn't just fade into your past.......sorry.
I know its disappointing, but look at it this way: dating is a means to "trying out" a friendship to see if there's any potential for a long-term relationship. Sometimes there is, but more often there is not and things come to an end.
Eight months is a very short period of time, you know, and if it's mot going to work out, you might as well discover that sooner rather than later.
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