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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:i was in love with my best friend. A problem occured and a misunderstanding occured because he doubted me of cheating him over my another friend. I was so heart broken and went to my bestpal for advice. My bestpal advised me to breakup with my boyfriend. I took his words seriously and i brokeup with him. After a period of a year my bestpal proposed me. My bestpal was my teenage crush and it has always been that way but i never told anyone not even my bestpal. Having had a broken heart and didn't want to get into a relationship again, i turned him down. But at the same time i was happy that he proposed me. Then i felt i made a mistake of breaking up with my boyfriend and my boyfriend felt the same way and we got back together. But i am not able to get over my crush on my bestpal. When me and my bestpal had a heart to heart talk about his proposal and things he told me he was over confusion and proposed me. Then we let that whole thing drop. Then i asked him all of a sudden if he ever had a crush on me, he accepted that he had a crush, but doesn't know if he is still crushing on me. I told him that i was back with my boyfriend, and i am confused over them both. He told me that i only loved my boyfriend and i am not supposed to think about him. So we came to the decision of not contacting each other again. But still i am not able to forget my crush so easily. And at the same time i am guilty of thinking about my crush, when am with my boyfriend. What am i supposed to do? I can't choose between them both. Does my best pal love me? Why is he ignoring me?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (7 October 2011):
 Either way that you look at this situation somebody is going to get hurt. Before you carry on with this relationship you really need to chose between these two men. If you have feelings for both of them well then the only way around this is to cut one of them out of your life completely in order to get over them and try out a relationship with one of them. I know that it is a hard decision but am afraid nobody but you can make this decision. If am honest I don't think you should be with your boyfriend at the moment, maybe taking some time out from the relationship will give you a chance to see things clearer. It is not fair being with your boyfriend at the moment when you are thinking of another guy. You need time on your own to decide who you want to be with.
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