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*onfusedlover10
writes:I went through my boyfriends txt msgs and found a conversation between him and my "best friend". He sent her msgs telling her tht he has been having dreams about them making love, getting married and having a family together. My heart dropped completely! He made her promise not to tell me and it really made me mad because he promised me that he would tell me everything and now i just absolutely cannot trust him to do that. I feel betrayed by both of them, mostly him, because i have told him everything since the 1st day we've met. I dont care about her anymore, i dont really care if she's still my friend or not...we started to break apart prior to this situation anyhow. plz help me. my boyfriend and i have tlkd about it and he says that it was just a few bad dreams but to me its way more, simply because he lied to me.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (14 February 2011):
 Deal breaker. Ditch this guy IMMEDIATELY. Cheaters are crappy, but cheaters who creep on your best friend are even worse, This guy can not be trusted, and in my honest opinion - never will. You deserve a WAY better guy than this, and a way better friend. Don't waste another second with the boyfriend - if you take him back, he will only take you through the cycle over and over again.
You are better than this! Good luck, sweet thing!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2011): Kick him to the kerb, girl! If this was just a few dreams, they would have been gone with daybreak. Instead, what your boyfriend has been doing is some very real, very AWAKE texting with your best friend. He's trying to line her up to pull her, which is profoundly disrespectful of you and your relationship together. You must have been sooo upset to catch him out! Worst thing is, you bet your life if your girlfriend had opened the door to him even a tiny bit, he'd have cheated on you all the way. You cannot trust this man and if you stay with him, he will do this again... and again... and again.Sometimes the only way to get respect in life is to respect yourself first. Realize that you're better of without both of these people in your life. Draw a line under your relationship with both of them. It will be painful for a while, but nothing compared to the pain of this whole thing happening again when you've wasted another 2 or 3 years on this man. Dress up, go out looking fierce, and have some fun without them. Guys will be flocking around you. Regard this as a lesson in the importance of loyalty and pick someone who will stay by your side through thick and thin. good luck.
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