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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Moved to another country and a close friends best friend said i should contact her boyfriend so he can show me around and also so i wont be lonely as my boyfriend is in another country... my boyfriend recently had sex with another chick and the girl contacted me online and told me what happened then called me and said that she got pregnant but she had an abortion, she had no idea he was still dating me but she thought i should know as she realized he was not who she thought he was... my friend told her best friends boyfriend about what happened and being the nice guy he is he came over to talk to me about it and was always trying to keep me generally busy so i wasnt over thinking stuff... then a few days ago we were watching a movie and he tried to kiss me, i stopped him and he said that he has actually liked me for a long time, cause we met about one and a half years ago, long before i moved but then it was just a thought but now he can honestly say he likes me and cares about me a lot and he cant suppress his feelings anymore. i just told him that he has a girlfriend and we don't want anything bad to happen. i met him the following day at his house and we kissed and i didn't stop him and we went out for drinks too and he stayed over at my place, we did not have sex but other things happened that were practically just as bad. i do not want to cause any problems in his relationship but he keeps telling me time will sort everything out and he does not regret anytime he has spent with me over the last few months and it cannot be denied that we are attracted to each other and have some sort of bond... i dont want to be boyfriend snatcher and we have agreed that there will be no more inappropriate behavior if we hang out again but i dont really know how to deal with the situation now.... Please someone tell me what to do.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (10 January 2011):
 First of it was a bad move on your half when you allowed him to kiss you when you knew he already had a girlfriend. But i guess that it is to late now. Ask yourself if you like this guy as well? And if you do then tell him you like him but that nothing more can happen again unless he finishes things with his girlfriend. If he liked you then he should have broke up with his girlfriend and persued you but instead he went behind his girlfriends back and cheated with you, he done to her what your boyfriend done to you.
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