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writes: My boyfriend of 9 months has just finished with me. I hadn't seen him for a few weeks as he was on a course, but we spoke to each other twice a day and werer making plans for a holiday.During his time away he had to have a medical and discovered he had an STD. He immediately got in touch and I was tested and found to have chlamydia which has now been treated.At first he was calm about it but he thinks he has caught it from me rather than the other way round. I have not been unfaithful but did tell him that the week before we met I had unprotected sex with a friend who could be the source. He is adamant he himself is not the source and I now feel dirty and this has ruined our relationship. I have been totally honest and I don't think he believes me.H e said he loved me and now I am devastated that it is over. Should I try to get him back, will he change his mind or should I FORGET HIM?
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reader, Wendyg  +, writes (23 July 2005):
 Okay you are not going to know for definate which one gave it to who... this is the risk we take when we have unprotected sex. The good thing is he told you straight away when he found out.. the thing with this STI is that it can go undetected for years in some people as there are little or no symptoms... so he could have infact caught it a long time ago!! indeed so could you have... you both need to move on from this and accept that its happend and that no one is to blame it happend and you cant determine who was the source and that you should be more careful in the future... you should also contact other sexual partners as they are likely to have it and this will reduce the infection being spread further as many do not know they have it.
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reader, pops +, writes (22 July 2005):
Ask the " Friend you had sex with to be tested." If he was or is a friend, you owe him that much. If he is negative, you know you are not the source, and your bf is simply accusing you before you accuse him. Tell him what you think of him for giving you an STD, and cheating on you. Then drop him. He doesn't deserve you, and he obviously thinks he's entitled to play the field while he is dating you.
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