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writes: I'm bored with life. I'm unhappy at work, I'm unhappy at school, I'm unhappy at home and I'm unhappy with my bf. Any suggestions on improving my life? Please help xXx
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reader, Sexybum  +, writes (2 March 2006):
 Thanks for the extra info.....So you must be towards the end of your A-Levels. You've probably learnt most of the stuff there is to learn on your course so take it in your stride and be PATIENT you have to sit those exams otherwise the last few years of your life will be worthless. I wish I sat my A-Levels but I didn't because I was bored of school. Now I regret6 it BIG TIME! I could've put up with it for a LITTLE bit longer and acheived a BIG stepping stone. You've done A-Levels for a long timenow so whats another few months gonna do!How about you don't go out to the pubs and clubs, try socialising in a restaurant with your friends a buffet place or spanish tapas are great for socialising! You'll be surprised at the offers you get when you start looking or experiencing. If you join a gym enroll on a personal training program . You will be SOOOO surprised what a difference this makes to your life!! Really fantastic. If you join the gym you could encourage your boyfriend too as well. Cor, imagine watching him flex those muscles (or grow them if he hasn't gpt any!!) It gets you both of the sofa and its not even expensive. Anyway why spend your money down the club when you don't like it!!! Change your job this will motivate you more than anything!! If all else fails do some housework!!!!!You'll find that all these things will get you out of the house, therefore your mum can't nag you. She will also see you growing and learning and may well respect you more for doing so and stop nagging. Surprise her pleasently with housework, make her smile, you only got one mum!!! If you start doing all these things, you will probably still get bored every now and again but its just your bodies way of telling you to change, grow!!! If your boyfriend doesn't change with you then leave him to it, you have to concentrate on changing for yourself and you will be happy. Good luck and sorry I took so long to reply x
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2006): i no where ur cumin from but hang in there honey, something good waits out there for all of us!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2006): Sometimes I find it hard to find something that motivates me, though perhaps you're lucky. Some people would be jealous that you even have the time to be bored! Instead of lazing around, ring a friend, invite them round or go out together. Try joining new clubs where you can meet more people and make friends AND find some new hobbies. Quit clubs that you don't enjoy, and keep looking for ones that you like.
What you said about your boyfriend is what worries me the most, maybe you should leave him, if he doesn't make you happy, just makes you bored, then maybe it's better for you to be single at the moment. That leaves you free to find another boyfriend that does make you happy. But I suppose, when you're single, you don't feel as guilty about leaving your boyfriend when you go out.....
About school, I know it's boring, but we've all been there. Keep a smile on your face and you might attract new friends. Keep working hard at school, and it WILL pay off. When you get your good grades you can leave your current job and get a better one that you enjoy more, and it will pay you better. Keep looking to the future and thinking positive.
As for now, you seem a little bit depressed at the moment, talk to your mum or go and visit your doctor who can give you depression tablets, or if your not depressed, then just booster tablets, which you take every hour or so and they boost your mood. Either way, life is too short to be bored, so take my advice and get out there and do something!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2006): ok, more info im 18 yrs old and im doing my A-levels, not doing to great and dont enjoy going to school no more. me n my m8s have a holiday booked for this year. and i see my bf soon- thur and go out on a fri n sat night wit my m8s. thing is coz of money cant afford to go out ne where further than the local pub n club, same music every week gets soooooo boring. stay in watchin tv wit my bf every nite coz neither of us knows wot we can do together. mum nags all the time bout little things tried talking bout it but she just nags even more.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2006): you should go shopping or get a hobby that can keep you preocupied for a while------do you have a pet?-no, than you should get one--talk to your b/f about your depression/boredness-he will understand, and most likley help you out
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reader, Sexybum +, writes (20 February 2006):
I go through that all the time and the trick is too just keep on trying new things all the time. It would be interesting to know how old you are, before advising what you could try. How do you spend your time out of school and work? Do you do things that you enjoy or just do whatever your boyfriend enjoys doing? If thats the case then you should do something on your own, join the gym, plan a holiday with your mates, paint your room. Do anything thats different and if it doesn't satisfy you try something else. If you are bored with your boyfriend tell him. I remember I used to get bored and miserable all the time and still do. Its hard but you are the only person who can make yourself try new things, good luck and keep us updated!
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reader, Danielle13 +, writes (20 February 2006):
 I feel that the most appropriat way to reply to your question is by advising change. You need to stop and assess your life. Why it is you are unhappy with certain aspects, once you have done that you can start to fix the problems! The best way I have found to do this is to work on yourself, find out who you are and what you want, experiance everything you can and realise your self worth! Once you become happy with yourself the rest will follow! Of course you will still have times when you feel low and unhappy, but who doesnt! You'll learn how to pick yourself up and be strong! You are who you are, just find who that is! Good luck! its a journey the majority of us have had to take! Trust me, it gets easier! lots of love! xx
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reader, mystify +, writes (20 February 2006):
 maybe look into one of those things where you are paid to travel , like summer school camp reps etc...see a bit of the world , start a new hobby like suggested maybe going to the gym, dance etc, im like you and let so many opportunities slip away, you just gotta get up and take hold of what you want in life
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2006): dump the bf spend time being single...look for a new job. speak to the ppl at home n maybe try n get a new hobby or summot. you dont have to do all these things at once maybe try them one by one n see how things go.
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