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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Me and my ex boyfriend broke up 4 months ago now due to his jealousy problems about my past.While in a relationship--although things were never great--we decided we wanted to travel together. well these plans got pushed to one side when we broke up.But in the past couple of months we have remained friends and have committed to still going on the trip.we have booked the flights and a few other bits that i cant afford to waste, however spending time together is becoming more and more difficult, there's barely a day that we see each other when we don't argue. i find him rude and often unbearable, and i think i have a lot of resentment towards him after the way he treated me when we were together. he too has issues with me and we just do not get on.i don't know how we're going to spend two months alone together. i don't want to waste my money, i still want to go on the trip. i also don't want to travel alone as i don't think it would be much fun.could anyone offer any suggestions on how to get through this trip and have a good time together?thanks x
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2011): Hi if you dont get on with each other and fight all the time. It begs the question, why go away together?
If i were you, id not care about the wasted money and just cancel. You really dont know what might happen while youre away with him. If he didnt treat you well when you were together, how can you be sure that will change while you are away with him?
My nephew continued a holiday with his ex because they didnt want to waste the money. It was an independent holiday they had arranged themselves. 2 days into the holiday they had a furious row and he walked out of the hotel. When he got back, she had removed all of his belongings and money, trashed the hotel room and left. He had nothing! The hotel management threw him out and refused to return his passport until he paid an extortionate amount for the damage to the hotel room. He spent 3 nights sleeping on a park bench. Only being able to eat, thanks to the kindness of street people. He had to beg for money so he could use payphones to keep in touch with us. It was a nightmare situation for him and us.
During a recent holiday. A friend had a row with her volatile boyfriend in a French train station. He stormed off with all their belongings in his rucksack and left her stranded. She waited hours but he didnt return for her. He was 'teaching her a lesson' apparently. Luckily after a few hours of her sitting on a bench crying, a French family noticed her distress and went to her aid. They literally took her home, where she stayed for weeks, until things were sorted out passport wise and she could return to the UK. Both my friend and nephew were lucky! Anything could have happened to them.
My advice would be to listen to your instincts. If you are here asking how you can possibly get through 2 months abroad with this guy, you are already having serious misgivings, just dont go x
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