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writes:I met this lady at work, we got on really well together, then after 8 months she lost her husband, and i was there to help her through her bereavement. It started with just a comforting hug and a peck.. which continued almost every time we met, even at work, at this point i was not in love with her, i was just here to help her through her most difficult time...Unknown to me she was in love with me, which really shook me, I often visited her and we would sit and talk and the kisses started getting longer... then one night, out of the blue.. she just said do i want to go to bed... well i was gobsmacked... we went to bed, and made love, but then, and ever since, i have never been able to climax with her?? Help!
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (18 November 2011):
 have you talked to her about how you feel? that would be my first step
since all your parts are in working order it's your brain that's the problem
I would talk to her tell her how you feel and what your concerns are and see if she's ok backing off the physical intimacy...
then spend time being intimate physically WITHOUT GENITAL CONTACT... for a bit.. then progress slowly
pretend you are hot teenagers.... go very very slow...
and guess what Orgasm is NOT what it's about so TRY NOT To have an orgasm... seriously... forbid yourself to cum...
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reader, terryfrombury +, writes (18 November 2011):
terryfrombury is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou for your intresting replies...first off...to aunt honesty, yes, everything is in full working order, and i now know that i have fallen for her, and do want to be with her.., i took a step back, to look at the whole situation, and nothing has changed between us...thankyou again..it must be psychological...any surgestions anyone
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (30 October 2011):
 It might be because in your head you know she lost her husband and you where there to comfort her and now you are feeling guilt somewhere deep inside. Go and have a health check to make sure everything is in working order. But I think this might be physiological so perhaps you need to think long and hard and ask yourself are you wanting to be with her.
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reader, Daniel the love doctor +, writes (30 October 2011):
 I think there's a psychological reason for your intimacy issue. You probably need to determine what you view her as, and find out where she stands.
There also could be some sort of doubt, fear, or uncertainty on your part that you may have to look into.
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