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writes: Is it common for a teenager to go through a phase of being bisexual? I don't want to tell my parents I'm bi in case things change, as I don't know any adults who are bi, but I know lots of people my age. Is it just that it's becoming more common in my generation, or is it a phase that lots of people go through? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2008): I'm very mature for being 14 and I too thought I could be bi. On a few occasions I've kissed,touched,etc. With two of my friends. (Not at the same time) But I found I love being with a guy way more, so I'm pretty sure your'e not bi, just curious about how things work.
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reader, hannieseds  +, writes (23 May 2006):
 Hey there,
Experimentation is all a part of life, and especially in your teenage years when you are starting to look at the world in a whole new exciting way.
When I was in my early teens, I experimented with my best girlfriend for a number of years. We were curious about what was happening to our bodies and how touching created all these new sensations. We knew we weren't doing anything wrong and we knew that it was just a 'phase' as we both talked about boys all the time! So we weren't at all worried, or even considered that we were bisexual. I haven't experimented with a girl since then, i'm 23 now and been in a hetrosexual relationship for the past 5 years.
Please don't worry yourself too much, as far as I'm concerned, this is quite a normal part of growing up, i mean not for everyone, but I suspect for a large minority of people they can relate to what you are going through. As your hormones settle down later on, you may discover that yes indeed you do like girls and boys, or just one sex. But until you are older I don't think it's something you need to be telling your parents about, when you're not even sure yourself.
Just enjoy your teenage years, don't think too much and take yourself too seriously- HAVE FUN! xxx
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (23 May 2006):
 I really think that this is a common phase for young adults at this time in history. Experimenting with sexuality is also not unique to your generation, but I think people in their teens now are more accepting of the idea, so therefore more open to discussing it with friends, family and well... strangers.
The teen years are when you try on different styles to discover who you are, and what you want to "be". This includes your music, lifestyle, friends, fashions and (I believe) even your sexual orientation.
I wouldn't come out to your parents about your bisexuality unless and until you reach a point where you think you've met a longterm partner of the same sex, because you may discover as time goes on that bisexuality isn't who you really are, and your folks would have been put through an emotional wringer for no reason.
And if you do find later that you're confident about your being bi, it will be because you've experenced relationships with both men and women that you found lasting and satisfying. Plenty of time to announce yourself then.
So, unless you're 100% sure about it, I'd avoid unnerving your folks with any newsflashes, at least until you're really certain about it, or university age, whichever comes first.
Have fun!
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