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writes:Dear Cupid,My husband and I have been happily married for 30 years. We are both in our early fifties and enjoy sex tremendously. Over the past year my husband decided it was time for me to experience the feeling of being penetrated both vaginally and anally by a much more larger penis than his 6.5 x 1.5 size. He went on the internet to an online adult sex store and purchased a variety of what's known as cyberskin or real feel realistic penises supposedly molded from real life erections. They ranged in size from 8x2 to 12x3 inches, all capable of securing to a strap on harness. When he showed me these things I said to him "are you crazy? there is no way I will be able to handle even the smallest one let alone that monster". Well much to my surprise one night while very relaxed and intimate using lots of lube he penetrated me nice and slow beginning with the 8 inch one and worked his way up to the 12 inch monster! Although I was able to be fully penetrated by the 8 incher I was not able to take the 12 inch one past 8 inches without experiencing pain in my cervix. Never in my entire sex life had I experienced such intense multiple orgasms with a repeated squirting fluid that at first we both thought was urine but later realized it was a form of female ejaculation. My question is this. We now engage in this play two to three times per week with each session lasting anywhere from sixty to ninety minutes of intense vaginal and anal penetration. After we are finished my vagina is very sore, anally I am fine, and I need at least a full day to recoup before we can have another session. We do use lots of water based lube continuously along with a condom and there is never any bleeding. Is this type of play safe? Will this cause any long term physical damage down the road? We both enjoy this very much and it has brought our time of intimacy to another level. Thank you for any helpful information.Sincerely,Still satisfied in my fifties
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (25 September 2008):
 Soreness afterwards MIGHT just be the same soreness you feel after a hard workout. You are after all stretching your muscles.
If there is no pain during, then it is just your muscles saying "Ouch, that was a bit much, we need a rest".
But the soreness should NOT be stronger then you would feel after a HEALTHY excersise that didn't go to fair. Soreness you, muscle pain no. Of course it is hard to say where the limit is. Pain is highly personal, you know yourself best. Is this the soreness of your body protesting from having to do something OR is it your body screaming for a chance to heal itself after you pushed it beyond its limits?
I would also take care with length, your vagina can stretch pretty wide, I presume you have had kids so you know this, but length is finite and your body is NOT desinged to be penetrated that deeply.
Anyone else remember that story about the guy in washington who had sex with a male horse and was penetrated to deeply? Talk about an embarrising death.
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reader, Sandman +, writes (24 September 2008):
 Whatever you and your husband do to keep your sex life healthy, fresh and exciting is great. Just keep doing it.
To answer your questions: if it makes you sore, go easy. Try not to take the biggest toy every single session if you don't have to. Only take of the smallest of the two. Even though you may be experiencing "intense multiple orgasms" through "intense vaginal and anal penetration", the root word here is "intense". It is probably feeling good but a little too much for you in long sessions. Try cutting down on the session time to see if soreness decreases.
I don't see this causing you harm down the road, the vagina stretches to great proportions when it needs/has to. The vagina will return to normal after a while. My concern is for your husband. After having a three inch thick toy inside you for an hour, he might not get much friction if he tries to engage in sexual intercourse with you directly after that. Allow yourselves to experience orgasms without the toys every once in a while. That will keep the toys session fresh (in my opinion).
Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2008): Hey!
This should be fine, just dont push yourself furthur than is comfortable, eg if it is sore, then wait till ti goes away to do it again.
So long as there is no bleedng and no lasting soreness, no unusual looking or smelling discharge during the day or the day after the fun, that might indicate an infection.
Keep having fun!
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