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36-40,
anonymous
writes:dear cupid i need help!!! i've been with my boyfriend for 2 yrs and i dont know what to do should i stay or should i go thats the question i need answered. first of all we been together for 2 yrs and he has'nt had a job that he last for more than a month so the last time he had a job was in 2008, all he wants to do is stay home smoke weed and play his playstation3 all night and sleep all day, we dont live together we planning to but i dont see him pushing himself to get a job so we can be together, the reason y i say that is cause theres another problem to our relationship his mother HATES me so im only allowed to his house when she goes to work and i work myself so sometimes our schedule is not the same cause when im off and i have time to see him i cant cause she home and we cant go nowhere cause he aint got no money and im not paying for anything cause he knows my payday and since he aint got no job and cant depend on his moms cause she wanna act stupid and tell him everytime he askes her for money she says dont you have a wife go ask her so basically i feel bad cause she will actually sit there and buy food for her and not buy him none so i feel bad and end up giving him money and then when i do go over and she at work i end up wasting like over 200 dollars in his house cause she buys no food and we have to be buying food to eat and of course his habit of smoking weed so thats part of it with his mother and the fact how she is always disrespecting me saying she dont fucking like me the reason he says she dont like me is cause one day when we had started dating maybe like months into the relationship we had started argueing in his house and she was home by the time i got to the door cause i wanted to leave he had grabbed my throat and started choking me and his mother saw and didnt do anything so i had said to her im gonna call the cops on him cause thats basically domestic violence so since then he says thats the reason y she dont like me, ever since i said that she always brings it up and says when she calls the cops on you and gets you locked up dont call me for shit and it got to the point where she tells him is either me or her and i think thats so childish and then on top of that the issues with him no job no money always asking me for money to the point where i stay broke sometimes cant go no where i have no friends cause of him cause eversince i started dating him is been all about him him him so my friends just gave up on me cause of him and his physical abuse he forces me to have sex when i dont want to but he loves me and wants to marry me and move out together and is been 2 yrs already about to be 3 cause is a new year and im not about to be stress again for another year cause of him or his mom so should i leave or stay?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2010): End it now. My ex's mother HATED HATED HATED me and my ex was not a pot-smoking loser like yours. Just the mom issue alone is going to kill your relationship it's just a matter of when. On top of all this your boyfriend might not have started out as such, but he is a total loser now.
My ex was the sweetest most giving caring guy. By the end of our 2 year relationship he was a douche bag meat head that worked out non-stop and only cared about his body. People change and we hold on to who they were or what they used to make us feel like.
Its time to let go and move on. Start now, the longer the relationship the longer the break up. PS my ex tried to pull the "maybe we'll move in together" thing. If they don't do it as soon as the idea is brought up they never will. Not at our age... TRUST ME. Your relationship has an expiration date.
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reader, lovemylove +, writes (5 January 2010):
Get the hell out of there!
Any man who forces you to do things and doesn't respect you is not not not worth it! His mother is just another problem, and she sounds like a inconsiderate witch! You're the one paying the bills for the guy and they both don't respect you. This sound be easy. Please leave him and this whole situation. Sounds like your friends don't approve either. So please get out before you really get hurt!
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