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female
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26-29,
anonymous
writes:I am so confused. Let me just start by saying that I'm a 17 year old girl and always assumed I was straight. I have always liked guys and do get turned on by them sexually. But my first experience sexually wise, was watching lesbian porn when I was way too young to be watching porn. And ever since that boobs have always turned me on and lesbian sex and straight and just a bunch of porn. I get turned on a lot, by a lot of different things.I don't think I would ever have sex with another girl but i do get off a lot by watching lesbian porn. I also had a mini sexual encounter eith my best friend at 12 years old because I couldn't control my hormones, and then I got my period a few weeks later. I'm just so confused right now. I can only emotionally see myself with a guy but am I bisexual or just bicurious??
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reader, femmenoir  +, writes (11 August 2015):
 Hi,
as a woman myself, i would assume here, that you're simply going through a growing phase. You're still very young & when i was your age, i had 3 very close, intimate encounters with other females.
I really enjoyed being with other girls & yes, it even became a wee bit sexual @ times & @ the time, i didn't even understand why i felt the way i did, but then again, i didn't even read into it, nor did i care.
You shouldn't read too deeply, into your feelings either. Simply go with the flow.
I did know, however, that what was occurring between me & the other girls that i fooled around with was to be kept secret from our respective parents, as we knew, we'd get in serious trouble, if/when we got caught.
The fact is that i eventually grew up, i then became intensely attracted to males, although i still find many women, very physically attractive & yes, sexy.
I say this in the most respectful way, as i myself am female.
I basically became fully aware of my sexual preference & my sexual orientation.
I don't think i am perverted, not by a long shot, i have great respect for every human being, regardless of their gender, but it's just who i am.
Many women your age, love both males/females & yes, even lesbian erotica. It's not really that unusual, only that millions of young people who tune into lesbian porn, or bi-sexual porn, do not openly admit to watching it.
Most people are afraid of being judged, so they do it within the privacy of their home, or they ask for advice & they remain anonymous.
You are still very young, do not worry about your feelings, your sexual preferences too much @ this stage.
You will eventually find out what you really want & whether or not you are truly bi & /or straight.
Ultimately, it's not big deal really, so long as you are happy & true to yourself, regardless of what others think/perceive about you.
Enjoy this time of your life, because your youth won't last too long.
Good luck & all the best! :-)
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reader, Garbo +, writes (2 August 2015):
 Numerous studies have shown that a huge proportion of straight women get sexually aroused by lesbian porn and there are viable explanations out there as to why that happens. So from this biological perspective of a woman, just because she watches and get aroused by lesbian porn it does not follow that she is gay. For men, studies show different pattern.
Second, and I think this is more important for you because you are so young, is the influence porn has on the development of brains in young teens. As you note your own premature experience with porn, the brain, under visual sexual stimuli, creates false brain connections that rewires your brain cells the wrong way and studies have shown that such rewiring messes up how to intimately relate to an actual sexual partner, and takes away human capacity to enjoy actual sex. Obviously, all of this is more technical with its own medical jargon, but in essence watching porn makes you incompetent to have a loving relationship and makes you unable to enjoy sex. So stop watching porn and feel some positive changes occur.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2015): youre just young with rampant hormones so i wouldnt worry too much. you will find a time comes when you find someone so interesting and fascinatingly wonderful that you will want to progress to a relationship, but at this moment in time dont worry about your sexuality.I dont know if watching porn is the best way to discover yourself because porn is fake sex in fake scenarios, designed to titilate the viewer, regardless of who they are.There is a lot of oil squirted at cameras to represent cumming and rhytmic breathing and diverse set ups that usually dont reflect real life. You need to aim towards finding a genuine human being that you know in real life in order to be able to connect more fully and definately over the age of sixteen as thats the legal age ..porn sex is usually adults who are sexually experienced in the sex trade but part of their act is often to assume the role of someone rather naive that got themselves into a situation where they are begging and screaming for more..dont forget that those lusty screams and moans are often at the excitement of the two hundred dollar paycheck coming their way,so rest assured it is not exactly the same as the real thing.
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