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writes:I'm 17 and my Boyfriend is 20, He has no Job no money. We've been going out for almost 2 years he was a nice guy totaly againts Drugs. And now, We changed he started to do a drug and hes doing it almost every day. We were sepost to hang out today. But then I find out he went to a drug dealer go get hes drug. and he doesin't even call me at all that night. I dont know what to do with him anymore. I feel like if hes using me. I really really need help.
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reader, jomana  +, writes (19 May 2007):
 first you have to see if he's willing to change ,if you feel from him that he might become what he used to be , then try to find out what was the reason for him to turn to drugs from the first place and ask professional people for advice ,but if he's not willing to change ,i'm afraid you will have to break up because eventually he will put you down and you don't deserve that
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2007): He is not the guy you knew..he is now addicted to drugs, hun. There's really nothing you can do for him. Your guy needs to find the strength and motivation within himself to make something of his life. He can't be a "man" for you until he takes charge of his own life and beats this. You are feeling used because, people with addiction problems often manipulate and take advantage of those who love them. You likely have invested lots of emotional energy in worry and stress about something you cannot control. Nobody can control anyone else's addictions. But you can invest some of that energy in making your life the best it can be. You are entitled to be happy, and to do your best to get your own needs met. So please take note, he's an addict and I'm sorry to say this-he will take you both down, eventually. The mature perspective is that your life is your responsibility and his life is his responsibility. Call in his family members and let them know that he is badly floundering. Tell them he needs help..asap. Have a "straightforward tough talk" and tell him, to start taking steps to help himself. or you leave this relationship, immediately. I'm sure you agree it would feel so wonderful to be with a strong, purposeful, self directed man. If he can't be that for you-then go find one of those. There is no other way, dear...be strong and look out for yourself here.
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