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writes:Three people (all made up names)A.) me, JamesB.)cCurrent girl friend, MaddieC.)Ex-girl for like 7 times and maybe soon to be, ClairePreface: I am currently seeing a girl by the name of Maddie, I have an Ex-girlfriend named Claire and me and her have had a lot of good but also almost as much bad in the past from me breaking up with her for other girls...All right so Maddie and I are in a good relationship and I like what we have but she is prude and also abenstendice. Maddie went to Mexico over spring break and over break; I hooked up with longtime friend and past lover Claire. Claire and I started by just listing to music and talking but that soon turned to kissing, holding hands and us even telling each other we love one another.Claire and I ended up heading our separate ways and she called me that night and we talked for almost three hours about life and our past, one other thing we talked about was what I am going to do about me her and Maddie. We came up with the idea of me just telling her that I like it when where just friends and breaking up with her to go back out with Claire...The Problem: If I break up with Maddie I will feel bad because I she her in school and me and her brother play basketball and I think he'll hate me along with the rest of his familyIf I go out with Claire I think her and me have true love and where meant to be and I know I make her happy.What I am asking is, is it worth breaking up with my current girlfriend for an old one that I have a rough past with? Is it worth losing her Brother as a friend?Well thanks guys and gals,Me
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reader, Wolvne +, writes (20 April 2008):
Okay.... First off:
You shouldn't have kissed another girl while you were still in another relationship. If Maddie finds out about that, and you wish to keep a friendship with her, you can forget it. She'd never TRUST you after that.....
However, putting that aside... I'm slightly torn on this. If Claire still feels that way for you, then, dear, she must REALLY care about you. However...
You've got to think about how realiable YOU are going to be. How do you feel when you see Maddie going down the hall compared to Claire? If you do get back together with Claire, is it going to be worth it, or are you just going to dump her for another girl again?
If you find that the possibility is too great that you are going to dump Claire, then I think you should stay with Maddy. Also: NEVER GO INTO A RELATIONSHIP JUST BECAUSE YOU KNOW HOW TO MAKE THEM HAPPY!!! Relationships can't just benefit ONE side of the deal. They've gotta benefit both sides....
It should really depend on how you feel.
Note: If Maddie's brother is REALLY your friend, then I think he'll forgive you. He might be mad for awhile, especially if Maddie is upset, but I seriously think that he'll forgive you.
I suggest being very gentle about this, and you should probably give your relationship with Maddie a bit more time. You wouldn't want to go breaking up with Maddie only to realize you still have feelings for her while your with Claire... That will just be a HUGE MESS!!
Hope this helped.
-Sincerely
Wolven
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2008): Why not break up with both?
You're fooling Maddie, plus you called her a prude.
You probably want to be with Claire ONLY because she seems not to be a prude...
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