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writes:This is going to be very long explanation so sorry in advance. This is about my best friend/crush (I'll call him C from here on to avoid confusion). C has told me he is bi and I have told him I'm gay. About a year ago C broke up with his girlfriend. I saw this as my chance to be with him. We did all sorts of stuff together like going swimming, to the movies, and to the amusement park. At one point he jokingly said we were dating. I had also been sending him love poems I wrote over facebook. He never mentioned the poems or responded to them but he kept going out on 'dates' with me. A few months later C meets a girl at therapy and after about a month askes her to be his girlfriend. After that I can not get near C because he is always near her. I keep inviting him to do things but he can't because of her. About a month ago I got a message on facebook from C's girlfriend saying the C asked her to tell me to lay off, and to pretty much stay away from C and if I write anymore poems to keep them to myself (I had stopped posting them when C started dating her). Thinking that C is the one who wanted it I stayed far away from him. We used to hug anytime we saw eachother, and any time I would leave from our youth group he was the only one I made sure I said goodbye to. I stopped going to youth group and stopped hugging him. I started to go to youth group again and as soon as C saw I was there he gave me a long hug and told me he's missed me. I still tried to avoid while I was there, trying to follow his wishes. It seems the harder I try to avoid him, the more C tries to grab my attention. I use to start the hug but now he is. Every time he sees me he goes up and hugs me. Me and a group of friends where at the park, waiting for the pool to open and C shows up (He wasn't invited because the friend who planned it doesn't like him; he was just up there walking around with his girlfriend). He walks to me gives me a hug, and asks what I was doing at the park (I hate summer, and wouldn't be caught dead outside unless I was swimming). I tell him that my friends and I are going swimming once the pool opens. He rushed home with girlfriend in tow to get his trunks. We all went swimming besides his girlfriend who didn't have her suit so she just sat in one of the chairs glairing at us. I'm starting to think that the message that C's gf sent me wasn't from C; I think see sent it to take me, her biggest compation, out of the picture. Should I talk to C about it? he seems to know nothing about it. Is it possible that C likes me and told his girlfriend (he's known for telling her EVERYTHING) and she tried to get rid of me. What do you think I should do?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (27 May 2012):
 Well when she first wrote the message the first thing I would have done was talk to C and ask him what the story was, not just take this girls word for it. I think you should talk to him yes, tell him about the message and ask him what the deal is, because she should not be going behind his back doing things like this, it is not fair. Talk to him and hopefully he will be able to clear it up.
However when it comes to him liking you, I really don't think that he wants to be with you, because if he did he would never have asked this girl to be his girlfriend. So don't get your hopes up to much regarding that.
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