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female
age
36-40,
*ivi5
writes:My best friend for over 4 years (a guy) and I have recently made the transition from "just friends" to "more than just friends." Over the past couple months, we have developed strong feelings for one another and have become intimate. However, we have been proceeding very slowly and carefully because we both value our friendship and are desperate not to ruin the great connection we already have.The problem is, though he is attracted to me and we have amazing sexual chemistry, he is either unable or unwilling to tell me I am pretty, beautiful, sexy, etc. Sometimes he will say I look good, but it always seems very generic. Do you think he is uncomfortable paying me compliments because we used to be just friends? Is he just bad at compliments? Does he feel embarrassed to tell me I'm pretty?I don't get it. I would genuinely love to know what you think!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2008): Set the example and pay him compliments from time to time.
Men also enjoy it you know. (He might follow your diplomatic lead).
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reader, Metroncho  +, writes (20 October 2008):
Don't be too worried about him not seeming to be able to say very specific compliments for most guys feel somehow ridiculous when saying such things. I believe it is because among ourselves tend to value others aspects such as comradeship, wittiness etc... and so normaly think you girls behave more or less like we do. Take it easy, for he -if he is the way I think he is- just needs to learn how you want to be treated.
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