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writes:Thanks in advance for reading this and looking forward for your reply and opinion.My best friend ever seems to have quited on me and im very hurt. Almost 1 year and a half of the best friendship i had in my life... One year ago we were in the last year of high school. We were the best buddies, I was ready to give my life if necessary for him, I teached him about boxing and self defense, We talked about girls, life everything. He knows my secrets, its the only friend I ever really trusted. He even told me i was his best friend and acted in such a way. Now we are in separate universities. In the vacation i made plans and all but thats when all started craking down. He always made excuses. He used to like to come to my house now he always make excuses. He used to like to hang out with me now he not even calls. Im always the guy making the plans and all to have some fun and he always rejects or make excuses. The only day i see him is the fridays that i go to his house to go church after that. But i really feel he calls for obligataion. My only reason to go to that church is to hang out with him but now that i see things clear i feel fooled. I never trusted in any friends in the past and when i trust totally in a friend he sudenly becomes distant and seems to avoid me. Do all friends leave you like this? Maybe i go to his house this friday but its gona be the same, the same distant guy whoe used to be my best friend in the world. Now is all one sided. If I dont talk to him he never calls me only to go church and i guess thats becouse his family is very religious and kinda force him to take people to the church. He is changing university and he have like a 3 months vacation, i told him that we can hang out, come to my house or i go to his house. He said yes just to make a excuse one day before that he had a bad stomach, called another day he said he was going to have some fun with his family and the same for the past 6 months.So well have you ever feel how your best buddy in the world quits on you living a great hole in your life. When he goes with all your deepest secrets and trust.Dam I really will never trust in anybody again... They seem to always quit on you in the end. He was really the only person i tought it was a friend.
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reader, AlexES +, writes (15 August 2011):
AlexES is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAngelic let me start by saying thanks for your beutifull answers. And yes i remember a time when i didnt mind calling first becouse i was sure he was my real friend. Im gona call him this week to see if we are going to meet this friday to come. I should eat my pride for one reason. It is better to try and fail that never try and have that doubt in your mind.
I dont mind being rejected but never to try is one of the worst things in lie.
Die triying i guess =)
Im really thankful to you for having time to answer me =). You are a very kind and good person wish you the best always.
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reader, AlexES +, writes (13 August 2011):
AlexES is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAngelic thanks for your answers they are very wise and what you say about pride is correct but still im to animal to act in that way and fin a hard time telling my feelings to somebody now i feel to be a traitor. Would you open up to a person that clearly in the current time really you dont matter? Can you force him to be the way he was in the past?
We were we suppost to meet yesterday but he didnt call. He didnt even send a text saying dont come.
I think his messeage is clear: "I dont want to do anything with you"
Do I even wana try with somebody that for no reason is quitting on me? No at all with "friends" like that im better off alone withouth beggin to anybody. He could be my best friend in the past but now im gona work in not caring about his existence.
I think that we have to be prepared to loose eveybody even our most deep and closest loved ones.
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reader, AlexES +, writes (11 August 2011):
AlexES is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAngelic thanks for your answer :D. Maybe I see him tomorrow. To be quiet honest with you I plant to keep acting in a good way like before but about talking of how i feel well thats something I kinda already lost trust in him so i dont want to open up in that way. Maybe is something of blind proud becouse i really havent done anything for him to act in that way.
People come people go... If wants the friendship its ok but at the moment i feel i did my part now its his turn to do something or show anything.
Like a ping pong game
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reader, AlexES +, writes (11 August 2011):
AlexES is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNot really i even treat him better than when the friendship started.
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reader, AlexES +, writes (10 August 2011):
AlexES is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks VSAddict =). Yeah just move on and keep with the good life. I was in the anger stage when i wrote becouse sucks to tell things of trust to others amd boom they betray you. But well who cares...
Life goes on as you say.
Thanks a lot for your answer ;D
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reader, VSAddict  +, writes (10 August 2011):
 This must be hard for you, but you have to move on. You were a great friend to him and for some reason, he's decided to give it up. Go your own way and he'll go his, and if he wants to be friends again, then he'll be the one making the plans next time. Don't chase after him. You're wasting your time and getting nowhere. And just because this one person betrayed you doesn't mean that you shouldn't trust anyone else. We all get betrayed and hurt by someone we care about at least once in our lives. But don't put your anger on other people because he decided to act this way. Move on, give other people the chance to get to know you, and make some wonderful friends. Remember that friends come and go, and if they decide to walk out on you, then they're not the type of friend you should have anyway. So move on, meet new people, and live your life. Hope this helps.
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