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writes:hey :)now, this isnt really a problem, well, its kind of is seeing as im writing about it but i think im making a big deal out of nothing, im not sure.well, me and my friend are 15, were best friends and dont have many secrets lol, so were close. weve got this new mate who we found through another mate of ours in 6th form. hes 17 and called kyle. (pretend name :] just in case!)thing is, my mate now really likes him (weve known him for a couple of months) (lets call my mate lauren). and ok, thats fine you know, she really lieks him and wants to see him and ug him and stuff which is dead nice and wants to go out with him and are like every other girl dreaming about their perfect one lol :), but its becoming the weenyest bit annoying now, because to see him we have to go to the quad (kinda like an open space bit in the middle of school outside) coz thats where he is at the end of the day. its always 'lets go to the quad and wait there for 10 minutes' before like..going to the bus top to go home or doing something else. and he walks home and we walk with him sometimes, past our bus stop and another two so its quite a way, and my bus often goes past and she always wants to walk and see him and hang around where hes going and doss out with him and well you know, thats really great she feels like that about someone and im not jelous of him or her at all, its just becoming a bit tiring if you know what i mean!were on the english forum and we go for a meeting every monday after school so we went through the quad and he wasnt there and she wanted to wait (which we did for about 5 mins) but we were already late so i was like ok come on now! and so we went up and then she was all moody coz we didnt wait longer and so she wanted us to tell miss we needed to see a science teacher for a second so she could pop down and see him again if he was there so begrudgingly i agreed and we went down and saw him walking out of school so she was happy she saw him i guess.but its like now if i dont want to wait that extra 5 mintues to see him shes like 'you owe me now! next time we see him come to the other bus stop with me!' shes not mean or anything she says it kinda jokey but its like well, i know what its like when you really like someone and i suppose if i put myself in her shoes and she didnt want to wait with me, i might feel a bit hurt or something.i have talked to her about it like gentley and she understands and she says she cant help it and i understand her too. i dont go moaning about her to any other friends or anything, so really after this horrendos essay (sorry everyone!) im just looking for a bit of advice to i dont know maybe ween her off him a bit? or some ideas so we dont have to see him and wait for him all the time. hes also got a bit a repuation like if you know what im saying but hes a nice enough lad, and i say just like be carefful and she does know but like she says, she cant help it.sorry again for such a long post, and i bet it seems a bit pointless really, but i guess i dont want us to argue or anything. and please dont say i sound jealous or anything becasue truthfully, im not, i just need a bit of a break lol! :) thanks for reading (if you havent fallen asleep already!) x
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionheyy!
i have knew news! :L
turns out he isnt staying on for another year at 6th form this september.......:D
obv im gutted for my mate, ino how it feels, but know maybe things can change (for the good) again!
she also went up to him on her own when i wasnt there and one of our other friends had to do something else which is good (Y)
and 'kyle', i think he does like her and she told me he was like we'll still have to keep in touch when i leave and meet up. so she was happy about that. and she told me a story that happened when she saw him in the library today lol. and then told me four more times!
*sigh* LOL but this might mean she wants to see him more than ever before he leaves becasue everyday its a race to the loos so she can make herself look presentable lol and then to the quad where he'll be and if he isnt then shes really annoyed. that was the case today but luckily (for her :P) he was late so at the bus stop we saw him and i was planning on staying there so they could walk together but he asked me to go to so i was gonna go but my bus came anyway :P
so i just thought id update you :P
btw i dont know why the age coming up is 10-12 coz were both 15 :L
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reader, compuzzled_chick  +, writes (13 June 2009):
 I really hope this works out for you!! You can't blame her though, I'm doing the EXACT same thing and I'm really trying to stop. :P The best thing, as I said, is to be straightforward... now mising her bus to see him is a bit extensive. I hope she gets him in the end.
I know it may sem awkward, but message me if you want any more advice on this. Good luck!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionto compuzzledchick and xxxnyria :)
thanks for replying so quickly lol :].
LOL well you see i have tried to get her to go alone but then she'll just take another friend lol! and ive told her if he likes her he'll come to her too, but hes like the flirty type with all girls you know? so its kinda hard to tell :P. thanks for the advice, if i start to feel quite annoyed again ill have a chat with her, and ill update you on any info :D x
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2009): LOL! I did the same thing when I was at school along with my best friend. Howver we were both obsessive...I think you need to sit her down and say that its tiring missing your bus for this guy you dont even like and get her to go alone so they can be alone together for once and that they may start dating then she still wont shut up about him but you wont have to follow him anymore!
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reader, compuzzled_chick +, writes (11 June 2009):
The best part about this is that I know exactly how your friend feels. She really can't help it, so you need to be straightforward with her and say that it's geting kind of annoying. Don't be rude about it, but tell her that he will come to her if she lays off a little.
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