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writes:Just want to get an idea what the general consensus is on telling someone they're beautiful during sex. If during the early stages of seeing someone, they say you're beautiful, can this still be quite a casual statement, or do you think it's a loaded term and means quite a lot. When you've said this to a partner, has it always come from a place of deep emotion/feeling, or can it be quite casual? Just wondering what people understand by this term and how to process it. thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, shrodingerscat +, writes (26 February 2012):
 It means they think you are beautiful. Don't read into it, women often make the mistake of thinking that the things people say mean something different than what they mean...don't fall into this trap. Take words as what they are, rather than trying to figure out some "deeper, hidden meaning".
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reader, JustHelpinAgain  +, writes (26 February 2012):
I have no doubt that the compliement was intended. But exactly what was meant? In the context of when it was said it was probably more like "what you are doing right now is beautiful". It doesn't mean he doesn't think you are beautiful at other times - but you could check. Generally though, I find sex with long silences a bit weird, so its nice to say something, but of course you don't really have the concentration to have a deeply philosophical conversation! Smart women soon work out they can get a man to agree to anything in the few minutes before orgasm!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2012): You can't trust anything we guys say during sex OP. Everything is amazing and perfect in that moment. Sex illicit's pretty deep emotions in people that may not be the case after the act. I've promised crazy things during and after sex, then thought "oh crap, I realy need to keep my mouth shut." It's very much like the effects of a lot of alcohol in that sense.
Only time will tell whether he does think that and you can just kind of tell anyway by the way he looks at you in general.
I will say though that the chances are good he attracted to you seeing as you're dating and having sex. Whether he has any kind of deep attraction for you is one that only time will tell. Beautiful is word thrown out far too often by guys to girls who they're only mildly attracted to in lots of different circumstances.
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reader, landomando +, writes (25 February 2012):
usually when someone says your beautiful during sex, its because hes turned on and its in the moment. If he says it just to say it, like going on a date, when you dont expect it maybe just sitting down on the couch then i think it means more. I think when its casual and there is no reason to say it, he actually means it.
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