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writes: Recently me and my gf broke up 3 months ago, we were together for 3 years and it just ended. Well after three months she starts calling me and asking me if i want to go out and eat with her. I would call her acouple times and she would always tell me that i would get her mad cause she is talking to someone else and that me bringing it up turns her off. Well now she calls me cause the guys shes with is tells her something bad. She calls me crying saying that he was really mean to her and he disrespected her. so she tells me the story and i comfort her cause i still want a chance to get back with her. I was acting a bit cold as in not wanting anything with her. What i would like to know is should i completly let her go and move on? Or should i wait it out and see where it takes me. And if things don't work out should i keep her as a friend or just forget about her? I would love to be friends with her but i'm afraid it's just gonna be messing with my mind and hurt me more. thank for any responses.
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reader, Bourne +, writes (19 December 2006):
 Tell her how you feel, and then ask her if theres any chance of getting back together. You need to decide if you can continue to be her friend without feeling like it has to lead to a relationship.
You said in your question: "... I comfort her cause i still want a chance to get back with her." She might feel like you are using her friendship as a means to manipulate her. Before you can be in a relationship, you need to be in a place where you can just be her friend, for her sake. Without expecting anything out of it with her.
If your heart hurts too much, then cut your losses and tell her in a nice way that you do not want to be friends anymore. I think thats pretty selfish but you have to do what you have to do.
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