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writes:Being a parent, you will execute anything for the sake of your child, for them to be good with God fearing and always be a good citizen. But how will I enforce all those behaviors alone? I just came from a failed marriage and suffering a bad relationship with the father of my child, I decided to end our relationship and decided to focus all the attentions to my children. Since he has a new GF I don't want to rely the future of my child to him. Bc anytime soon, he will have a new family.Today, I really don't know how to start our new lives without asking any support from their father, but how I will I start? What to do to be able to afford all their needs? This is the biggest challenge in my life thus far and all I have is a BIG FAITH in our almighty GOD. Only I know GOD has a better plan for me... So GOD "Challenge accepted"! Any words of emcouragement will definitely a big help..Thank you, Reply to this Question
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (3 June 2015):
 Have you divorced yet? The court would not let it proceed without dealing with child custody and child support so they have the answers for you. If you can't afford a lawyer you can apply for financial aid. I don't care if he's having another family. He's obligated to support his children.
As for parenting, one more person does not mean better. I believe children are good natured, most of them. I don't know about god fearing. They should have the freedom to choose if they want to believe in God. Children often copy what their parents are doing so if you are self reliant, loving and happy, they would have no reason to go bad, to befriend questionable characters that lead them astray.
After you succeed in getting child support, your next step is to find child care. That could allow you to go back to school or find a job. I hope it is as easy as it sounds in your country too, because I could never recommend working in a foreign country and leaving your babies behind with your mother.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2015): Sorry, but having grievances against your ex-husband doesn't grant you the authority to deny your children their right to receive financial support from their father nor should it relieve him of his legal and moral obligation to provide it, whether or not he chooses to be a part of their lives.Your children didn't pick their father, YOU did, and as a mother you should realize that it's in your children's beat interests to have TWO active and involved parents in their lives. To than end you should be doing everything possible to ensure that they maintain a relationship with him.And if he chooses not to be a part of their lives then it is YOUR responsibility as their mother to make sure HE supports them to the fullest extent of his ability to pay, regardless of any future girlfriends or children he may have, and if he is not currently paying child support then it is incumbent on you to obtain a court order obliging him to start.
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