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anonymous
writes:Hi,I've been with my husband for 7 years and we are married for almost 5 years now. We have a 6 year old son. I recently met this guy who is married for 2 years now at my work. Lately, we have been spending time together during lunch. This guy flirts with me a lot and giving me signs. He tells me things like he can be a better husband and he can give me good babies. He would say these things jokingly. I would respond to all of his comments jokingly. He thinks that I have feelings for him and I am just holding it back. I told my husband about him. I told my husband that I am spending lunch with him and that the guy is married. I told my husband that I talk to him about stuff but I never told him that this guy flirts with me a lot. I want to be honest, these past few days, I've been thinking of sleeping with this guy. I know that i will put my marriage in a disaster if I that happen. Should I ignore this guy now? Please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2007): Open your eyes! Don't risk it and walk away now before this snake of a man gets what he wants, wrecks your life and moves on to his next 'victim'. I've seen it all before - don't be another statistic. Don't fall for the flattery my dear - if you get away from it now you'll still have some dignity.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (29 July 2007):
 You already know the answer to this. And, the reason you told your husband about this was to let yourself off the hook. I'd bet you didn't tell him "ALL" the details either. I'm sure you sugar coated the lunches and the topics. That way you feel like you're not cheating. After all your husband knows you have lunch and talk........B U T ....he doesn't know you want to jump into bed with the guy or what the other guyis saying!!!!!!! To top it off, you know the other guy isn't joking. That's nasty on your part.
What are you doing? When your husband finds out, you'll reply.." well i told you about him"...No, you told him half a story. You've only told him enough so you don't have to hide your lunches but not enough to raise any red flags. These are called lies and emotional adultery. Yes, you've already cheated on your husband. That is because you're willingly going to a man for emotional boosts. It turns you on. This in itself is not so terrible but the problem here is, the OTHER guy is aware that he's working his magic on you. He knows you like it. It you were attracted to a guy and nobody else knew it but you, then it would just be a treat for your mind. What makes it dirty is that it has become a game.
By the way, this guy says he'd be a better husband. He doesn't sound like a good husband to me. If I was picking a husband for my daughter, it wouldn't be him. What are his good points????????? I'm going to be blunt. Is it worth risking everything so this guy can put his penis in your vagina? That's what we're talking about here.
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