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writes: Question: I have been on 3 dates with this guy, total chemistry there anyway on 3rd date he stayed over we fooled around and then in the morning he didn't cuddle nor kiss me so I felt really dejected. At 10.30 he got out of bed and said that he had to get shopping and a few things done. I got very upset as I had bought it lots for breakfast and was hoping to spend the day walking around art galleries. I told him that it was evident that he didn't want to spend the day with him and he declared that he had a dreadful sleep and how his back was killing. I broke down and cried and said that I really liked him and didn't want to get hurt I also mentioned that he never tried to cuddle me in the morning. He then left saying that if he doesn't have a full 8 hours sleep he can't function properly. He said he'd ring that night, Sunday, and never did. I sent a cute x as a text, nothing and then I stated...a few tears shouldn't jeopardise something with potential...nothing...today is my birthday and no card nothing...I sent a casual text inviting him to gathering at a local wine bar...he declined as busy at work...I sent him a text saying sorry you are so busy at work..lets try and meet up sat...his reply was ok I'll call you... what should I do next..feel so distraught! z
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2006): No more texts or calls, just chill, wait and see if he contacts you. If not, then move on but don't pester him. I personally don't think he is the one, despite how you feel, sorry. Just walk away with your head held high and keep your dignity!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2006): He is not into you. Move on and cut your losses before its too late and you will end up more hurt.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2006):
Ok the crying thing was bad.
Back off for a while.... he knows you want to talk...
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2006): Oh my God... Look at how many mistakes you have made and it's only been 3 dates. You were too easy. You were too fast. Too available. You should have never spent the night with him. You deprived him of the challenge, the thrill of the chase. He had you so easy! Not only that, but you bought breakfast as well!! Crazy. AND cried too?? Fatal. Too desperate. Too needy. Too clingy. Not only that, but you followed him with texts after texts after invitations?! The guy told you he'll call you. BLOODY wait! Be a woman. Be hard to get.
Sorry to say but you flopped totally. Your only chance is to BACK OFF. If he wants you, hell, he knows where you are. Do not bombard him with texts.
Even if he does call you , he has now all the power because he knows you are desperate to be with him. Not a smart move. Best of luck. Be strong and STOP CHASING HIM. You should NEVER be too nice with men. They never fall in love with you like that. Trust me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2006): Well, honey, I am sorry that you are feeling dejected. Here is the thing, many men feel very vulnerable as well after a night of lovemaking, especially the first time, it is always wise in a situation like this to give the guy his space, no calls, no texts and especially no pressure which is what you did when you accused him of not wanting to spend the day with you....he is probably scared of getting in too deep with you so fast and you came off as needing him instead of wanting him mostly.
All is not lost, just back off completely and let him call you, however, if you do not hear from him in 2 weeks, go ahead and give him a call, not a text message, and do not say anything at all about his not calling or I thought you died or anything like that..just be your cheerful, independent self because that is what he likes about you...give it a chance, he may come around when his passion and curiosity renews....hang in there...good luck.
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