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writes:I recently was contacted by an old high school boyfriend, my first love after 28 years! He now lives in another state. This contact brought up old feelings and although I am married with kids I want to have more contact with him, is that do bad, I did not tell my husband that he called me. I cannot stop thinking about him and don't know what to do. I have been married for 25 years to a verbally abusive (at times) husband. I find myself longing for this old boyfriend and wanting to see him, etc. This was my first sex and my first everything. What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, PeterPan +, writes (26 July 2008):
 Only time will tell if this is a mistake or not. But no matter what you decide to do, weigh all your options carefully before committing to either choice. You are the only person who can decide what's right for you... over and above any advice you get from any of us. Where you reap the rewards, be mindful the possible consequences as well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for your thoughts on the matter - I did get some advice from a close relative and she told me that I should follow my heart. I feel that this high school sweetheart is a soulmate and I still have very strong feelings for him stronger than I had in high school. I was very young then and after talking to him yesterday for over one hour I know that I made a big mistake for leaving him and getting with my present husband. I have been wanting to leave my husband at various times in my life and now I think I have the chance to. I am getting my life together and he is not feeling it. Do you think I am making a mistake?
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reader, PeterPan +, writes (25 July 2008):
I kind of think that if you head is only in this for some attention from somebody you once knew... that seems OK... just as long as both of you are on the same page here. If either one of you are planning to make this a "booty call", then I would have some serious second thoughts...
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2008): Because of the feelings you have for this man unless you can control yourself? I just think it's a bad Idea. You should not have an affair.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you. I am having some trouble with this, I have been thinking about him all day and I do want to keep in contact with him but I don't know about how I would feel about that, I broke up with him. But do you think I should continue talking with him and not tell my husband?
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reader, PeterPan +, writes (25 July 2008):
Are you looking to get romantically involved in with him again? I mean, in a physical way? If that's the case, then you might want to reconsider that. If you are looking for a considerate shoulder to cry on, then that might be OK. I suppose that you need to consider all that you would want from a re-establishing communicating with the ex-boyfriend. Are you trying to start "a thing" with him?
I suppose that I can say move slowly. Consider that with all the time that has passed since you were together. In that time, I'm sure you both have become different people to some degree or another. I would start a email companionship with this guy. You might discover that he's a different person than you remember from high school... just a warning from the pages of reality.
Assuming that everything goes OK, then best wishes for finding happiness!!
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