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writes: I have nothing to say to my wife. We have only been married for a few months, and I am scared. We just moved because of her job, and we have no one to speak to other than each other. I am not working so I can't even tell her about my day. What can I do to have a more communicative relationship with my wife? Reply to this Question
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reader, beentheredonethat +, writes (28 September 2006):
 Um....So you know everything you will ever need to know about her? she must be BORRRRRING.....shallow...probably a little dumb?
Did you not notice that about her beFORE you married her?
No No...of course i am being cheeky.
Can't think of anything?
tell her a joke
tell her a story about one of your friends. ask about her friends. ask her to imitate them so you will recognise them when you all meet.
tell her a story from childhood...and ask her about herself.
tell her the most embarrassing moment in your life...and ask her about herself.
tell her your favorite thing about your mother and how she has that quality and it will make you cherish her forever.
Ask if you can help with dinner...or just cook it and ask her to tell you all of her favorite foods while you cook.
Ask her if she could be a magical creature...what would it be and why.
Notice...a lot of what you can SAY...is listening.
Listening is easier than talking.....But, most people consider it the more rare gift....because few people have that skill....develop it and listen to her every word...after all she is the One person who you chose to spend a lifetime listening to....consider it your most sacred duty...enjoy every moment of it and conversation will never be a problem.
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reader, Toria +, writes (28 September 2006):
 Sometimes you don't have to say anything just hugs, kisses and cuddling up watching TV or a film is enough, words don't always matter as much as the little show of affection do.
I wouldn't worry about it too much as she married you because she loves you not because she was hoping to have loads of intellectual conversations everytime you are together.
Good luck :o)
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reader, Rachx +, writes (28 September 2006):
I agree with eyeswideopen, just because you dont work and have recently moved shouldnt mean you no longer have anything in common to discuss with your new Wife. Dont worry about it too much, your aware of it so just work on it. Keeping up with current affairs in the news and watching maybe the latest films together is a very good start. Ask how her days been and try and take an interest in what she has been doing at work. Maybe even look at planning your next trip or holiday to give you something to think about look into and discuss. Im sure you will get back into the swing of things in no time. Best of luck x
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (28 September 2006):
 Read an interesting book together. Watch the news on TV and discuss it with her. Talk about things you would like to have happen in your future.
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