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writes:I want to know if I'm being rational or not. So I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year when we first started dating I had learnt he kept photos (naked) ones of girls he's been with and ex's who've sent naughty pics. One day I was filming had gloves on and my fingers hit his photos and I discovered they are still there. I'm not okay with naked photos of girls fisting themselves etc being on his phone especially since I moved to a new province left my family for him. If I bring it up its this big deal. I want to know am I right to be upset? Because I feel if it were the other way around and he asked me to delete naked photos I would no problem. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2015): I'd delete them myself And see if he thinks they're worth arguing over.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (2 February 2015):
 I think keeping naked pictures of an ex is a BIG no-no. If you no longer date them, you no longer have the "right" to those naked photos. I think it's DISRESPECTFUL to the ex and to the new GF to keep them.
As for the "porn pictures" of "strangers" (aka porn stars) well I find it TACKY and kind of NASTY when a guy keeps pictures of someone's privates on his phone. I don't HATE porn, but I just find it pathetic that someone would keep those kind of pictures so readily available on HIS phone. Just eww. But if he makes a little folder with the "porn-stuff" I'd still find it nasty, but I would also RESPECT his right to privacy and his right to like whatever porn he likes. Pictures of exes is NOT what I'd call porn.
Whether you left your country and moved hallways across the globe or next door, having NAKED picture of EXES is disrespectful. END of story.
You may not want to ROCK the boat, but if you don't bring it up, it will fester and you will start to resent this and then other things he does. IF you two can't have an adult conversation about this, should you even be dating?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2015):
''bye'' is what I would be saying to someone who still keeps naked ex photos. a year on dating me or even a day come to think of it!
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