Becoming more than FWB

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Article - (15 September 2009)

6 Comments - (Newest, 16 September 2011)

A female age 36-40, sammi star writes:

I see a lot of questions on here about people who are stuck in the FWB situation and often they want to know if there's a chance of becoming more. Most of the answers tell them that no, there isn't so I wanted to share my story.

When I was in my late teens I had a very good male friend, we worked toghether but also had mutual friends outside of work so we bacame quite close but I had a boyfriend at the time and never looked at this guy as anything other than a friend. Anyway, over time we lost touch as you so often do as you get older and life starts to get in the way. A few years later we started talking again online and discovered that we still had that close friendship we'd had before, this time however I was single and started to see him in a new light. One thing led to another and before I knew it we were FWB.

Now, this suited me just fine to begin with as I enjoyed being single and didn't want to get into another relationship. As time went by though we were becoming very close and acted as though we were going out even though we'd say we were just a casual thing.

It carried on like this for months, me carrying around all these feelings for him but too afraid to say anything for fear of scaring him off. It was like living in limbo, a seriously horrible time as I'd constantly be trying to read things into every little thing he said in order to suss out what he was thinking.

This is no way to live though and it really starts to get you down so eventually, after a lovely day together everything came to a head and I just couldn't take it anymore and blurted out everything I'd been thinking. I was so scared that I was going to lose him altogether and it took a huge amount of courage to explain how I was feeling but I'm so glad I did because you know what? He was feeling the same way!

It's still early days for us but we're exclusive to each other, making a go of things as a couple and I couldn't be happier.

I guess I just wanted to let everyone out there know that you can become more than FWB but you'll never know unless you find that courage to speak up. I'm so glad I did x

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A female reader, sammi star +, writes (16 September 2011):

sammi star is verified as being by the original poster of the question

Thanks for taking the time to read and reply so long after I wrote this! I really hope things work out for you. My bf and I have been together nearly 2 1/2 years now so there is hope, don't let anyone tell you otherwise! I wish you lots of luck whatever you decide to do :)