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writes:I need advice please.....I don't how my bf would react to some heartening news.My mom and I had words with one another. It all started with she calling me a demon and i said 'one must know the next'. she get upset and we start telling each other stuff. my whole life is miserable when it comes to dealing with my mom. she always talks bad of me telling people i am the bad apple in the family, even called me hag in town infront of everyone. i was real embarrass. she always call me names and wish bad of me. imagine i was going to do my exam she tells me she wish i didn't pass and all them stuff. how someone suppose to feel if the parent is getting on like my mom does. she said she wants me not to answer her when she says hurful words at me. because i answer her back, i am the rudest person. she even plug out my computer when i was using it because i talk. she says she will mash it up. she go as far to bring a cutlass in the house for me. i wasn't going o stick up there and let her hit me with no cutlass i would of defend myself if she had used it. i am no child she keeps acting like she wants to control me. my mom says i suppose to humble myself in her house because everytime she talks i ready to blow out on her. my voice is loud so when i am angry it gets even louder thats why she says i am overpowering her. i don't want to get into conflict with her its hard at times. so she says because of my rudeness my boyfriend aren't allow at our home anymore. when i tell my boyfriend he's gonna think my mom have something agaist him. what is gonna happen to me and my man, if he can't come by me what kind of reationship will we have? if i don't tell him when he comes by me, my mum is gonna asked him to leave her house. what he suppose to feel towards my mother after i tell him. I cried my eyes out because she is evil she knows that my boyfrend not coming by me it will hurt me so much.how can she do this? my bf did nothing to her! she is to spiteful for a mother. yeah and she is a christain who always goes to church. i told her she is a spiteful, evil mother who says negative about me. whenever she wants something and she don't get it, its trouble. for E.G. if she tells me to buy something in town for her and i forget she will say, a buy you don't want to buy none and carry on. if i watching tv and she just reach in the house and she wants to watch somethng she goes straight to the tv and just switch the channel, if she tells me to do something and i can't she cusses about it and says oh you will help such and such do this but you aint go help me do anything. that's how my mom is. she must always gets what she wants done whether if i am unable. if i don't she threatens with the land and house saying they are hers so everybody comes of age so who don't hear will have to go. i have to bear it because i cannot rent and don't have any money to buy and build a house. sometimes i just cry and cry.
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reader, Georgiaaaaa  +, writes (17 May 2010):
My mother is like that two. for years i had battles with her.. an actaul fights. but i found the best way to handle it is to do the things she asks. and if i foorget say well if u want something done right do it your self. my mum always kicked off with me.. just stay out there way help out when there not around like clean the house but then dissapear when she not around. && the advise about the boyfriend ii say just tell him you and your mum have had a massive argument and that she doesnt want anyone in the house.. just keep putting him off she will change her mind,, just show her that what she says doesnt bother you.. that you can live your life around her.. dont get involved in arguments walk away or ignor her.. then she will realize .. dont upset your self.. ther is always a way around things. mothers are unpredictable and like i say i no what mother am going to be..dont be scared to trust in people.. for years me and my mum fight everyday now we dont because i walk off and ignor her.. so she noes she is wasting her breath.. she's also kicked me out loads but she is always the first to ring me and tell me to come home.. && my mother hates my boyfriend for no reason at all.. and he doesnt come in our house.. he understands that its just my mum being nastyy.. he should accept it,, if he cares about you.. hope it helps
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