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anonymous
writes:My boyfriend has been complaining that my vagina is now lose and accuses me of cheating and I have never cheated on him. I'm so confused and hurt cause this has affected our relationship so badly what do I do pls.Secondly we've been having issues of recent, he finds faults in all I do and screams at me a lot this days. I've tried talking to him but he keeps blowing hot and cold on me
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2013): At your age there is no such thing as loose vaginas. Also, even if you cheat what does it have to do with size of your vagina. These are idiotic statements that he made for obviously different reasons.I had men telling me things that I naively believed. One guy wanted to have anal sex, because he said, he is ,swiming-inside of me. And in fact his penis was smal and very thin. Another said that I m extremely tight in there. You can't believe everything they say. But in general your boyfriend sounds like he doesn't want to be with you.
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reader, Euphoric29  +, writes (3 April 2013):
Dear OP,
Your boyfriend sounds emotionally unstable, irrational, insecure or just mean. I don't know what made him so distrustful or why he acts out his aggressions on you, but you need to stop letting him treat you like this.
Maybe you relax more during sex than you used to, or you're better lubricated. This happens. And it's actually a good thing.
Don't try to prove anything to him - your faithfulness, your love.. don't even try to explain anymore, he doesn't seem to listen anyway. If you're too nice and too eager to gain his trust, he'll probably think you feel guilty. Tell him he can go if he doesn't stop this.
There's a small possibility that he will come to reason once he realises you're not to be taken for granted, and that he'll make an effort to change his behaviour. But I wouldn't bet on it.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (3 April 2013):
 Honey what kind of a boyfriend is he if he
a. accuses you of cheating
b. finds fault in all you do
c. screams at you all the time
d. makes you feel bad
e. is inconsistent with his behavior.
I'll tell you what kind of boyfriend he should be.
an EX boyfriend.
either he's the one who's cheating or he's too insecure to be a true partner.
either way the next time he accuses you say "yep you're right and I'm done with you BYE" and END it with him.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (3 April 2013):
 I believe that you've asked about one detail (loose vagina and cheating) which is really just one part of a much larger picture.....
The remainder of your submittal "paints the picture" of a relationship which has run its course... The behaviour of your B/F - which you describe - is exactly as a guy would behave if he is preparing to part ways with a girlfriend...
Steel yourself for what is almost-certainly going to happen.... OR, take the initiative and tell "boyfriend" that his behaviour is not acceptable to you... and so you believe that the two of you must part ways....
Good luck...
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (3 April 2013):
 If he were my boyfriend, he'd now be my EX boyfriend, for being an idiot and an abusive man and too stupid to deserve me.
If he's making wild accusations, finding fault with you, screaming at you and is this unreasonable, well, he's not going to change unless he wants to. It sounds like he likes being mean to you. Often, someone who accuses his partner of cheating, is cheating himself, and is trying to hide it.
Leave him. You don't need to be treated in this way, you don't deserve it, you've done nothing wrong. It's ridiculous to stick around for more of the same treatment.
Be brave, take good care of yourself, he's not doing that, so he needs to go.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2013): I think you have a loose cannon on your hands...And he is quite niave about a vagina, that's for sure. You are too young to have this going on, uness you've popped out a number of kids already...seriously. It's all about lubrication and the moment. When this has happened you were probably quite aroused. Perhaps he was not fully erect or needs to move in a different position for better friction? But to say you cheated...he's very immature and not handling the situation like a mature adult, at all.He's got something bothing him, and it's probably not you, but he's taking it out on you. Don't allow him to treat you poorly. Walk away if and when he does. Cut him off when he gets started and calmly and quietly tell him not to speak to you that way. And talk to him when it's not a confrontion and ask him if something is bothing him because lately you have not been comfortable with things he's been saying and the way he's been behaving. If he flies off on you, walk away or walk out. If the behavior continues, trust your instincts and end the relationship.
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