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writes:Based on the following would you say this person loves me? Essentially how do you know if someone loves you?The bad:- will not go away on holiday with me, but went away with his ex (his reason: not enough money at the mo)- Took three years to have sex with me but slept with exs during the first month of relationship ( his reason: I (as in me, OP) havent had sex before so it was too difficult)- never says I love you etc ( his reason : when i say it I say he is lying). The good:- travels hours on the train to be with me - Has never cheated, lied or done anything to break my trust. - Never ever raised voice to me, called me any bad names or said anything inappropriate. Never sworn at me. - always consults me when he makes plans, so that time together comes first. - always makes sure he lets me know where he is, if he going to be late, he has never dropped off radar. - has an appropriate level of friendship with females, does not touch them or hug them or flirt with them.-
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2011): From what little you have written i don't think anybody could tell you whether he's in love with you or not.
Those points you've posted don't prove a persons love.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2011): There is no real way of knowing if someone loves you. When its cheating,lying,disrespect and the enjoyment of putting your partner down in public,for whatever reason,then you can say they dont,its clear. Everyone behaves and says things different, but we never ever really know. Its far easier to see when they dont. Some people say they love,but you will never be able to carry that pretence or false belief as it will eventually show itself. My friend loves her man,she never knew what love was until meeting him,yet when we go out its soon pushed to one side when she`s having another one night stand with another stranger who flatters her,laughs about it, yet swears blind she loves him more than life itself. Made me think a bit this one.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2011): There are more 'good' reasons than 'bad' on your list. So he is not demonstrative enough for you I think. Some guys are more about actions than words. And that is a good thing. You get guys who are full of 'I love you' and grand flourishes but are actually shallow and don't live up to the words. My long term partner is very much the lovely guy, totally reliable, will walk through fire for you but buying a bunch of flowers is completely beyond him, as are platitudes. Only you can judge, but sometimes there is a bit of a trade off.
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reader, Surya_rise  +, writes (26 January 2011):
I think the guy loves you honestly.thats the reason why he was not hasty in making love with you.and as for his not saying you "I LOVE YOU",I think his actions clearly says that he loves you.As you know,Actions always speaks louder than words.So i would advice you stick to the guy and wish you a happy life ahead with him.
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