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writes: I met my current partner about 4 months ago. He is 22 and I am 23.Basically I was in an abusive relationship for 2 years and had hassles for a long time afterwards. I struggle with depression due to this and previous things and I'm on medication as well.My problem is when I am out with friends I find it difficult to relax and enjoy myself without worry of doing anything wrong (Eg talking to other guys or doing something wrong) I get so paranoid about this I scare myself and feel so guilty to the point of making myself ill. Even though am sure deep down I don't think I'd ever wanna cheat on him. I'm scared to be happy or do anything wrong. Any help? I don't wanna lose him or finish it cause of my problems. Reply to this Question
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reader, Your big sis +, writes (6 June 2005):
 I understand what you are going through. Personally, I don't think you gave yourself enough time to heal from the bad relationship. But if you really don't want to give up this guy to work on yourself, you will have to try and realize that every guy is not abusive. And realize that looking at other people (people-watching) is not bad. The repercussions of the last guy will continue until you realize you are still being controlled by this ex-guy. He put mind control on you. And breaking through this barrier is the only way you will really be free of him. So free yourself from this "abusive" way of thinking. Tomorrow is a new day. Take care, love.
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