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writes:so i've been with my boyfriend for a while now and i love him dearly, i just recently had a miscarraige and ever since then things have just become horrible. it went from almost perfect to a complete disaster, he rarely comes to see me and all i do is crying every night hoping he'll call or even drop by...while all of this has been happening his best friend (whom is also my good friend) confessed his feelings for me. we speak everyday all day, he has been there for me this whole time my boyfriend has not. i think i'm starting to fall for our friend i dont know what to do, my friend tell me he's afraid to see me cause he's scared to fall for me...what do i do???
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reader, Helper411 +, writes (10 June 2010):
I HAD THIS SAME PROBLUM! here's what u do... u dump you talk to yur boyfriend and tell your friends bf to just back up a bit. Cuz if u dont you'll end up friendless with a guy u dont need :( trust me
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (10 June 2010):
 You are welcome ! Don't think about the problem. Just let your hair down , go out and enjoy your life with your friends.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you very much Laura
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (4 June 2010):
Thanks for your update.Prayers and you are always in our thoughts. Take a breather and allow time to heal your wounds.
Everything will fall in place when the time comes. Try to relax and take care of your health.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni really appreciate those who answered you guys gave good advice. but unfortunately my boyfriend, well should i say ex boyfriend and i done for good. my friend is still in the picture but i told him that maybe we should just wait and see if thats what he truly wants and also if thats what i want, i explained to him that i am very confused right now and we should just wait and that time will tell. he agreed to wait as long it took for me to decide whether or not its what i really want, he said there's no rush at all and to just know that he's here for me no matter what!
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (28 May 2010):
My sadness and sympathies for your miscarriage.
It is unbecoming of your b/f not to be there besides you to offer you comfort and solace for your grief and pain.
You will have to decide if your b/f is still the man he is .If he is this cold towards you , I think you will need to make a decision about him soon. He has deserted you in this hour of need.
Take one problem at a time and solve it before you go to the next problem. Put your b/f's friend on hold for the time being until you cleared up with your b/f.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (28 May 2010):
 You are very vulnerable right now. You are depressed and sad and grieving over your miscarriage, and it sounds like your boyfriend is grieving in his own way by withdrawing, which doesn't help you any.
Don't cheat on your boyfriend with this friend, talk to your BF and figure out where your relationship is. If he is being wishy-washy and you want to break up with him, do it, discuss it with him, and then you can pursue things with his friend.
However, understand that his friend is helping you in a moment of weakness. Cheating with him will be something that you regret.
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