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female
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36-40,
*ibby
writes:my pastor says i should not commit sin of fornication(sex between young ones) and my boyfriend is really pissed off cos wev neva sexed since we started dating for 10months now. am 20yrs and he is 26yrs working in a company.... wat do i do i really love him and dnt want to loose him and i dont want to disobey my pastor!! wat do i do... Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2009): Ask yourself WHY DO YOU GO TO CHURCH, AND WHY DO YOU WISH TO FOLLOW CHRISTIAN TEACHING IF YOU WANT TO LIVE IN SIN?
Do you worship your boyfriend and lust, or do you live for God? If your boyfriend truly loves you then he would wait till marriage and have sex then. It seems you are old enough to get married, then why not jump into the marriage and have sex then. If he's after sex in the relationship and can't wait till marriage then he's not worth it. He is just trouble. Most pre-marital sexual relationships do not end with marriage, but with a terrible break up. Sex makes two people one in flesh and it's hard to let go even if there's no love left, it blinds people.
The Bible says in 1 Corinthians 6:12-20 that you should honour your body and not do sexual sins (pre-marital sex), since it's a temple of God.
A good website that gives information about sexual relationships for Christians: http://www.lifeway.com/tlw/students/
If you are NOT a Christian, then you can live a wordly life and have sex with whoever? But if you do are a Christian then listen to your pastor, he knows what he's talking about.
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2009): you have to decide if your pastor or your boyfriend is more important. If you are religious then I suspect you will resent your boyfriend if you go against your pastor's wishes. However, you've been going out for 10 months so it's not unreasonable for your boyf to expect there to be a sexual side to the relationship, unless you have both decided on no sex before marriage. You both need to communicate what you want to each other and move on from there. If all he wants is sex then he's not worth it, however if he's been patient with you for 10 months you have to be straight with him and tell him what you will or won't do. Then it's up to him.
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