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writes:i have been in a relationship for 9 years and he told me he had an affair last month,i forgave him but he wants a trial seperation as he no longer loves me,than he wants to see me as a friend and take it from there,could that work,could he ever love me again,i still love him
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2010): you have wasted 9 years loving a man who does not love you. by keeping in touch, by being "his friend" you will be wasting many more years.why torture yourself like this. he is throwing you crumbs in the guise of 'friendship", what friend will do this to you? you owe it to yourself to make a clean break and to find some "dignity", i say dignity to walk away from a man who knows you love him, want to be with him but is cruel enough to throw 'friendship' in the mix. what does friendship entail. he will be sleeping with other woman, blatantly carrying on with his life and moving on with other woman how would you be able to deal with this? you owe it to yourself to respect yourself and say Thank you but no thank you. Do not let this guise of friendship keep you around hoping against hope that he will come around. he won't.
there are still many good men around. one day you will find him. in the meanwhile. habve genuine friends and learn to live again. take care
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reader, It's all be okay +, writes (26 April 2010):
You've been with him for nine years and you love him.
He, on the other hand, no longer loves you and cheated on you first, rather than working on the relationship with you.
You know what I'd do? I'd tell the rat to get stuffed. How dare he repay your love and commitment in such a crass, horrible way?
And on top of it all, expect to keep you in his life as a "friend"! What a selfish man.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2010): His dialogue is code for:"I want to use you for the things I liked, without commitment, because I want to use other women too. I'm keeping my options open, with the conveniences you provide, to hold me over in case I decide something serious with someone else."
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (26 April 2010):
 some people can stay friends with their exes but i believe that both can heal better with no contact and that it can be hard for some to move on if they are still seeing each other as friends. like their holding on to hope if you have broken up and their isnt anything you can fix then its just not ment to be and that you should focus on healing your self and moving on that spending time on something that doesnt value you as much as you value it you deserve better love is being blind stop being kind and find someone who deservers you good luck aphex xx
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