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anonymous
writes:my boyfriend lives an hrs drive from me but he is moving further south which will make it two hrs drive. he does have to move as that is where the work is, also his son has just started to live with him , so thats another reason why he must move as he will be able to keep his son near his family. i love this man dearly, at the moment we see each other once maybe twice a week, but after the move it may only be as little as once a month. He told me (and was extremely nice with it) that maybe it will not work out now as we first thought and maybe go our seperate ways but remain friends. Im finding it hard to accept, i know im not prepared for this, and i will be hurt if we have to end things as i do love him, he knows this and said that if it could be any other way it would be. What do i do now? how will i deal with this? i do understand the whole situation but i never wanted to lose what we had and just remain friends, i know i will find that too much to deal with. as the time gets nearer towards the move im finding myself becoming more needy with him, more wanting deep talks which i see is beginning to push him away, i feel like im clinging on to him in the hope that he decides not to move, even though it would be selfish. help anyone please Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2009): ok i have a good idea how you are feeling, although my partner has lived a good 2 hours away since we met. its hard for us because we both work shifts and usually opposite ones. as for making the most of the time before he goes, why dont you go out have fun relax and talk. let him know that you'd like to see how it goes and arrange to meet up when he's settled. it may help for you to join a gym or go out with friends or something o that you have things to talk about. I did go through a short phase of being a bit clingy too, it didnt last long as he said as much as he wants a relationship with me we both need to do things separately. a good plus is that when you argue you can do what you like and by the next day its all forgotten. it may seem like i'm a bit flippant about it all but it does help to be relaxed and easy going. hope it all works out for you, take care
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