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writes:My bf said he is joining the army and that I will leave him. Shall I leave him??? I love him but I will never see him I don't know what to do because I know that if he goes then I will never see him n I havent seen him in over a week and I miss him so much. If he joins a wont see him I wunt be able to cope. :( What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (28 January 2009):
Sweetheart, it sounds from your update like his mind is already made up.
He'll go away from you and end up posted to the other side of the country.
Basic training will change him and then you'll never see him and he will out with all his mates all the time, because that is what young soldiers do.
My husband is in the army and he told me that he really thinks you are better off apart at this time in your lives.
Try to get over him and move on. If it meant to be then you will meet up again at some point. Throw yourself into your schoolwork and going out with your mates to take your mind off him.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, misssassy +, writes (28 January 2009):
o god you should not even think of leaving him. how horrible would that be. dont think about yourself joining the army is a massive step! and you will still see him as they come back at weekends and you will have contact with him. you must not love him as much as you say you do if your not willing to support him
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reader, Leonardo  +, writes (28 January 2009):
I was in the military with a girlfriend back home. I know what he is thinking... you are young, and doesn't want you "being true" to him while he is off doing what soldiers do best: live hard, play hard. He's a young stud and you can't expect him to be faithful. You both have a lot of growing up to do.My suggestion is to give him all the room he wants and needs. Don't be a clingy girlfriend (which is sounds you are) or he will drop any thought of you as soon as the bus leaves town. My advise is to write some friendly, newsy letters without all the mush that girls like to write. Send him mail regularly, send photos of friends and newspaper clippings (soldiers love mail).If he doesn't return your letters, then forget him. If he keeps in touch, then maybe you can rekindle a relationship when he returns. But don't count on it. You have a lot of men yet to meet in your life. Don't give up your youth waiting for some soldier who has said everything but, "Get out'a my life" to you.Buy the way, if you haven't heard this yet, I'll tell you the number one rule about men...THE DON'T CHANGE FOR ANYBODY"
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI have alredy told him I don't want him to go and he says he wont but then he gets all depressed then eventually he told me he might but he changed his msn name to soldierismylife. Took me off it too. :( He is 17 am 15. Not sure when he is going but he hardly talks or meets me now or even lets me ring him.
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