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writes:My boyfriend didnt watch porn before he met me. I've been together for 3 years. However, I discovered that a few months ago, he watched porn and looked at sexual parts on naked women bodies to get arousal and to masturbated.We have sex regularly and we enjoy it. But why does he watch porn? He didnt do it before he met me. When I asked him why,he said he didnt know why. He felt guilty about it and promised me not to do it again. What should I do? Please give me some advice. Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2012): I don't think porn use in a relationship is acceptable unless they are thinking of their partner at the same time but that's just me.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (23 April 2012):
First, he probably did watch porn before he met you.
Second, don't be insecure over it. Although, I get why it makes women insecure, (when I was younger I used to feel that way) I honestly don't think your boyfriend is wishing you were a porn star. Sure, I'd like to marry Channing Tatum, but that's not ever going to happen and I'm not going to reject a guy because he's not Channing Tatum's doppelganger.
Third, even if it's the lesbian scene with Denise Richards and Neve Campbell in Wild Things, which isn't a porn, or some other scantily clad girl in just a regular movie--some guys masturbate to that. You can't really control what's going to turn on a guy and whether or not he's going to masturbate to it. In other words, you or he can take away the porn but he'll find something else to masturbate to.
Fourth, there's nothing you should do. You can talk to him about it and hopefully he can make you feel better about it, and that it has nothing to do with you. You can forbid him to watch it, but then you'll be angry if/when you catch him watching it again.
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reader, Thisiscrazy  +, writes (23 April 2012):
 Oh huni it's natural there is no harm in watching porn and no shame in him getting himself off . He is curious let him watch them you watch them together enjoy it and get excited together ..
If you give him a hard time about watching them and say no then his is going to end up hiding it from you and you will both feel bad.
He is curious he wants to learn more you should enjoy them together and learn new things
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reader, Taylaa.x  +, writes (23 April 2012):
Hey there! It's a given fact that most men watch porn, whether they have girlfriends or not. If he's horny, and you aren't there, the first thing he will think to do is whack off. You shouldn't take this badly, you should just accept it, and understand that he probably still really enjoys having sex with you, he just needs a little something for when your not around. Masturbation is healthy!
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