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female
age
36-40,
*yrop
writes:I have a boyfriend who loves me a lot and whom i love a lot too. he has had 2 other girls in his life which he truly loved. am the 3rd one. apart from that he dates 4 girls with whom he does not has true intention. it happens that last time i have asked him a question. before asking him that i asked him to promise that he'll speak the truth. and he did.i asked him :- '' Considering all the gfs you have ever had in your life, with whom you have had the greatest desire of spending your whole life with and the greatest urge to marry her?''he answered :- it was the 1 st girl that he has truly loved.i appreciated him for having said the truth but was somehow hurt that he did not choose me. i replied him :- what about me?he said :- ''i consider you my wife not my gf ''then i asked him to include me in the list of her girlfriends and answer me. he was working that night. he told me that he would replied me as soon as he is back home.when he was back home, he replied that it was ''me'' with who he wanted to spent his whole life. he also said that he has not read the question well as he was busy working and that's why he replied it was his first girlfriend.now my question is that :- '' do you think he has spoken the truth? '' or he said it so as not to hurt me???????? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2010): Can you not see how disrespectful his blatant womanising is? When a man is ready for marriage and he meets you, and thinks you perfect, and has his finances in order, and he is not in any relationship and is totally available then he will likely start talking marriage within three months. If you go out with a man for 12 months and he has not yet raised the marriage word then you can finally raise it. But if he flinches at the marriage word, changes the subject, or says he is not ready, then move on. You cannot keep wasting time. The clock ticks, and if you want a happy stable life with your own real husband you have to settle for nothing less than the real thing. Go into the world and find a good honest reliable man who is not in a relationship, who is not married, and who wants to really marry you, and settle down, and keep to an exclusive relationship, not a shared one. None of the women, including you, mean much to your current part time lover. He sure as hell is not your husband and not your boyfriend. You are sharing a football field of women, with him.. He has not grown up, he enjoys the thrill of the chase, he enjoys flirting. He is still being an adolescent boy, finding out how many girls he can get with flattery and lies. This man may never be ready to settle down. The girls in his life are all just pitt stops until he finds the next girl willing to hope that maybe she will be the one. By the time he is an old man he still be chasing women. And he will wonder why he has not much to show for his life. Because entertaining women, the occasional bunch flowers when he is wooing a new one, the drinks he pays for when he is trying to interest a new girl, it all takes money. i would not consider you are in a relationship. You are just the most accomodating of his girl friends. So you wash his socks, keep things tidy, and meekly accept his serial womanising. This man will never be satisfied with a wife, he only wants a harem. Plus one reliable woman left to do the drudge work of a wife without the benefits of exclusivity. I also note he did not bother to read your question. I would not believe whatever he said.
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reader, syrop +, writes (31 October 2010):
syrop is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni want to correct this question and its title as well. its not that he ''dates''. he was dating now he has stopped ever since he met me
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