B/f confessed that he is married with a child on the way in 3 months! I didn't see this and am devastated!

A female age 41-50, anonymous writes:

Until yesterday I was seeing a guy for about 6 months - we just dated and spent the odd weekend together. Two days ago he came over to my house and sat down and said he had something to tell me. He was married, already had a two year old and as I was trying to come to terms with that news he told me his wife was having another baby. I could hardly hear beyond that as shock and disgust took over but it seems she was already expecting when we just got together as the final blow to my sanity is that the baby is due in 3 months. We had been having sex regularly and he made a big thing that he was nervous with me because he was out of practice. What a lie. Right now I am ill with the hurt and cannot eat a thing and cannot stop crying. I am so ashamed of myself for being a fool. I am going over and over every detail and putting together things that seemed odd at the time but I never questioned because I trusted him. I found a toy in his car for example and he said it was for his sisters child. He always said his place was a mess and it was better if he stayed at mine for odd nights. He had started to go into work later and claimed his hours had changed - but I am guessing he was helping his wife through morning sickness. It does not seem to matter what I do but I cannot alleviate the way I hate myself for being so trusting and gullible. Also the people we both know who must have been laughing behind my back. Please can someone tell me how to pull the pieces of my life back together because I'm at a loss. Worst of all I am likely to see this guy regularly as I work near where he does. I have so much hate now. Please help.

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