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writes:Im in my last year of high school and i've started having feelings for my best friends ex. But its forbiddon territory! I never meant to fall for him, but we are together everyday and its so hard. He really likes me too and I think we could be so happy together.My best friend went out with him for just a few months, a year ago. She lost her virginity to him though. He did act like a dick to her which caused them to have a bad break up. But she's been out with 4 boys since.Anyway I spoke to her about it, and she said she was ok with it, but to be careful incase he screwed me over. I honestly dont think he will, we are really close friends and I KNOW him. Anyway my friend then proceeded to have an argument with him. I could tell she wasn't ok with things. I havn't kissed him or anything like that but we hang out a lot. I had another conversation with her and she told me she really wasn't happy with it. But then we were at a pub, and me and him were stood outside talking about it all, but she thought we were out kissing or something so ran out and started shouting and burst into tears. We sorted it all out now, as I explained nothing happened and she says shes not mad at me, just at him. I would never go behind my friends back, I love her so much and she comes first! But I honestly don't know what to do, we both really like each other, and its harder for me because he's prepared just to go for it. But I can't do that. Arghh i'm so confused please give me some advice!
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reader, Love-Lust  +, writes (27 December 2010):
okay,so this is kind of akward for me because im sorta going thru the same thing.
It was the first day of 8th grade and this guy no one payed attention to i just admired him right when he walked in the classroom but we never really talked until the 3rd week of school and he was just goreouss.. Now i wasnt liked in this school in the begenning from over the summer but i used ta talk and talk to him everyday on the phone we usedd to talk about everythinggg i mean everything until one day he saiid he liked someone and he told me and it was somebody i wasnt cool with and its hard for me to express my feelings knowning he likess someone elsee so im devestated and i would cry myself to sleep some nights because i really liked him but by that time we were bestfriendsss we still talked but not like that because of he had a new girlfriend towards January Everyone got back cool and stuff like that and me and his girlfriendd became bestfriendss and i felt as if i pushed him awayy and that came between us and then we became back cool.. and i started calling him favorite brother and i was favorite sister mind u they still was together and i started liking him while she and him were dating and that got around and everybody turnt aganist wich i dont blame them but itss just hard so he wouldd tell me all there problemss and stuff and it would hurt me because i know i can treat himm way better by august they broke up and they started in october. thatss when the end of the summer he was ar my house everyday non stop we went to cedar point we was with eachotha all the time and we almost kissed until i turnted away because i thought of my bestfriend i love her with all of my heart but i just new i just new me and him would end out like this now im in 9th grade he likess me and i got felings for him so does my bestfrienddd.. but i dnt know what elsee ta do i want to do the right thing but the right thingss hurt because i love him... with all of my heart i want him to be the one i grow up with. because i feel as if i found the right one but i just dont realize whats behind it.
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reader, Xx-Scorpio-xX +, writes (13 November 2010):
 i would say, that eventhough it'll be hard, don't go out with the ex. i nearly lost a friendship as i got caught making out with one of my friends ex's- luckily she forgave me and we are still really close. It's probably because he was your friends' first time and there is a special feeling she feels towards him making it hard for her to see him intimate with anyone else, especially someone so close to her.
Explain to him, that you care about your friends' feelings and don't want to hurt her by going out with him. If he doesn't understand then he is not the right kind of person to go out with. Try and find some one else to like as it will probably be for the best and maybe try to avoid spending so much time aound him until your feelings for him start to die down.
Good Luck :)
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (6 November 2010):
 Yup, everyone knows ex's are off limits unless given permission. Its sounds like she was ok with it, then once she saw two in action it became too much for her too handle. Now, I also don't think she's entirely over him..why else would she run from the room bursting in tears? But she's mad at him? I guess because he kissed you in public..suppose she took it as he was trying to flaunt your no so secret romance in her face.
Now if you go out with this guy, then it could potentially hurt your best friend even more. You two aren't even official and she's already getting upset over some PDA. If you don't want any bumps in your friendship then I suggest you don't pursue this guy. But that's up to you. Do remember your friends will always be there when guys come and go.
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