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writes:So having worked in this low-end job for about a month I've been struggling with the black or white question of whether or not I should try and make a move towards being more than friends. It's taken me so long because working (and dating) coupled with the fact that we're both pretty different people. So anyway I think I've finally reached the point where I should try and make a move because like most people I tend to overthink and overcomplicate things - and I put up roadblocks in my mind; reasons not to do things I guess to save myself from rejection.So I guess here's my questions: 1 - How do I go about asking out my co-worker? 2 - Evidently it'd be with us being alone but should I hope for a similar topic to come up in conversation or should I just bring it up directly? 3- Should I be subtle and maybe ask if she wanted to grab a drink or something or should I again be more direct and say something specifically date-ish? 4 - Finally should it be something casual like a drink out (what I'm gunning for) or again a little more date-like i.e. dinner?P.S. To anybody who thinks I might've waited a bit too long, I'm not really buying it... if she thought of me as possibly more than a friend a week or two ago then she'll still probably think it now... but I guess we'll have to see!Cheers in advance,A hopeless romantic
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2013): Just do it! Stop thinking about it so much. Take the risk if you really like her! It is worth it. Better than never trying and then regretting it, wondering "What if" right? Ask her to go for coffee. Do you share similar interests? Ask her to an event you both have in common. If you already are on friendly terms, this should not be too hard. She will probably already be receptive to you and feel comfortable with you. Just make it casual to start. Tell her/email her you are going to go out for coffee, and ask her if she would like to join you. Very simple. You must have some idea that she likes you back or you would not even be contemplating this or fear rejection so put that aside and ask her out for coffee. Go for it! I believe in the positive. Go into relationships with the best of intentions. Many romances have blossomed in the work place. It is where we spend most of our time. Makes sense. Good luck!
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