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anonymous
writes:Heyy guys i have been having a tough time as of late and i've had so many opinions on this i'm feeling a bit stuck so i'm hoping i can come to some conclusions on here. I broke up with my boyfriend of five months about a month and a half ago because we were arguing a lot in the last month, we'd both had enough of it and unlike me he wans't sure about what he wanted in the future and so if we did last we may not have wanted the same things later on. Although he was the one that put an end to it because i couldn't bring myself to let go and i wanted to give it another chance. But it ended on the Easter Sunday where we'd decided to have a week break after a huge discussion on it and he said he'd give it anohter go and following everyone saying it sounded like he was letting me down gently i broke the week break to ask and he said he was now feeling doubtful and wanted it to end.Since, i've been very up and down as to be expected, although i've over the past two weeks been really wanting to tell him how i feel as of late now i've had a lot of time to look back. I realied i took him so much for granted and didn't even recognise all the sacrifices he made for me, i was clingey and i brought up arguments on the most stupid things. And i so desperataly now want to tell him i miss him and that i realised what a b**** i was towards the end and that even if it's not with me i want him to find a girl who see's how amazinf he is. Long stroy short, i'm still very much in love with and missing me ex. I told him i was moving on and i needed space so he's ceased all contact under my wishes but says he really wants me to still be in his life as a friend. My life seems to be falling apart without him and i'm torn between telling him or not. At times i really want him back and at times i'm hesitant, Maybe if we started dating again in the next month might be a good idea, Some friends say tell him and just see what he thinks, others say we're too different and it couldn't work. But tbh, i really don't care so much about the differences anymore because who he is right now is enough for me in the forseeable future. But is this just feelings caused by break up and a broken heart? I'm just very unsure, But i don't want to end up waiting and then realising i definitely do want him back and by that point he's with someone else because he thinks i'm now mutual about why we broke up and have moved on.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (6 June 2011):
 how will you feel if you get back in his life as just a friend?
I know with me I could never at first be just friends with someone who broke up with me and i wanted to be with. it hurts too much and i keep thinking and hoping we can be more than friends. and it ends up making me crazier than just moving on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2011): So you think i should tell him then? A lot of people seem to think it would be a bad thing to do. I don't even know if i definitely want to be back with him yet and i don't know if he would meet with me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2011): Hi,
When you tell him make sure you invite him to see you as a friend. Face to face. Make your self look nice.
Dont seem unhappy!
Dont seem desperate!
Dont seem upset!
Seem Happy!
Make sure you tell him you miss him. take a small step and ask if he wants to take you out.
If you do this right he will want you back.
take small steps. Dont jump into things.
UKLifeCoach
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