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writes:Hello I've met a woman online we talked for about a month before we actually met. We met, we hit it off and we slept together. we both said we were ok with it and we both said we weren't seeing other people. Before we met she invited me on a field trip (she teaches) I picked her up at her place (she's doesn't invite guys over to her place she told me), we had fun on the trip she stayed by my place and I dropped her off the next morning. the thing that bothers me is that she has 2 (issues) 1 she doesn't call guys. 2. she feels uncomfortable with me in her house.. how long should I give it? At some point I would like to be able to go over and stay over without having to worry about if she's nervous having me over.. I can understand it's only been a month, but at some point she has to trust me. another problem is that she has a dog that someone has to watch if she comes over to my place.. if she cant find someone to take it out she can't stay over and... well I can't go to her place so it limits our time spent together, I'm not worried about if she's seeing someone else I'm just worried she'll never trust me at what point do I tell her to more or less S**T or get off the pot. we talk every night mostly if she doesn't feel like talking she'll tell me. Do i have anything to worry about? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2010): From what you say, I think you're over-stressing about things. You've only been seeing each other for a month!
Trust takes time. Maybe she had a bad previous relationship and wants to play it cautiously. Or maybe she feels she needs to trust YOU before inviting you over to stay. Has she given a reason for not inviting guys over?
I wouldn't advise pressuring her; just chill out, enjoy the blossoming relationship, and give her the space and time she needs.
If she's still this unrelaxed in weeks/months/years to come, then you can be more direct...
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