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anonymous
writes:i've been with my long distance boyfriend for over a year now. Dispite the distance, at first things were great. He made me feel so wanted and loved..which before was something I didn't think i'd ever feel.But now things seem to have changed so much..i just don't seem to matter to him as much anymore...its just little things i notice that are just different. I know the distance is partly responsible because we live 8 hours apart and are both in college so don't get to see each other all that much.. but we do talk on the phone and online evry night. I just dont know why he's changed towards me?
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reader, cd206 +, writes (19 January 2007):
 Are you sure he's being distant and it's not just your head playing tricks on you? Sometimes we need reassurance that all is well in our relationships so we imagine problems and hope to be proven wrong. Is there any way you can see your boyfriend soon to put your mind at rest? If not just say to him "Look, maybe I'm being silly but I feel a little insecure about us right now. As far as I'm concerned everything is great between us. Dyu feel the same?"
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reader, Dagwood  +, writes (19 January 2007):
 Hi Anon. Relationships need nurturing. The desire has to be kept by both parties. This is hard to do even when you live together so a long distance relationship makes it even more difficult. Ask him why he’s distant but don’t be pushy, handle it with confidence. You must make it clear that you desire to be with him but don’t “need” him. Maybe he’s stressed at college or maybe he’s met someone else closer to home… these things happen but hopefully he’s honest enough to tell you straight. Maybe suggest a short time-out so that you can both think about where things are going and see how he reacts. Hopefully things go your way. Take care.
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