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writes:I am 21 years of age, and after sex, I feel bad..unlike most who feel satisfied. I feel as if I have done something wrong and should be punished. I don't have a very exciting sex life yet, it's pretty much "normal." I was molested as a child and I am not sure if that has anything to do with it. At first, I am really into sex and I want that pleasure. But after it's over, I feel horrible. I need help with this!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2007): I've been molested also and I've married since that has happened.I still struggle with this everyday.I know we have to forgive but it is very hard to forget.Just continue to pray and ask God for strength I dont know if you are married or not but if not wait on a Godly man to come to you and make you feel more loved.The pain will never go away because you are the one who went through it.Your husband or boyfriend should have enough compassion to make you feel like the beautiful person you are inside and out.Just keep praying that God will take away the anger and hurt you feel inside.God Bless You!!!!!
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reader, rcn  +, writes (8 October 2007):
 It's a transfered emotion. You haven't come to terms with being molested. The pain caused form being molested brings on this feeling.
Here is something that has been proven to have worked time and time again. I've studied and studied on this subject to find out why it works. Until recently my conclusion was "just because it does." Until I got stuck and started looking through biblical text.
First what you need to do is confront the person who did this. If not in person, on paper, and no you don't need to mail it. It's for your healing. On that paper, without holding back emotions, write down as if you're talking to them about how you feel about what they did, how what they made you feel and how what they did has affected your life.
After that's done you have to forgive them for the action. I'm not saying you'll forget, but you'll have to forgive them, not because they deserve it but because you need closure and deserve to live without living with the affects of their actions.
I don't know if you go, or have gone to church. Don't take offense to this. In the bible where it says "forgiveness is divine." I knew counselors have used this method for quite a while, but the way it works has really no psychological conclusions. It just works. I believe what happens is if we don't forgive, we carry part of the burden for their actions. When we do forgive, that burden is erased.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2007): its natural to feel that. im still a virgin but its like christams presents. you sneak down in the middle of the night to open it, then you just feel disappointed. you feel naughty and embarassed. its perfectly normal, and you will get into to it. mayve you should go all the way, you know, maybe bring in some 'toys' to help you out.
ps: are you religious? thet may be something to do wih it (clearly)
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