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writes:I love East Asian guys. I do not love White guys. I'm a White Canadian girl. I grew up in a very, very multicultural area (I was the only white girl) and then an area that was about 50% Chinese. when I was 10 I moved to an all white area.Until I was 19 I wondered what was wrong with me. All my friends would think so many guys were attractive, and I never did. I find body hair and pasty skin totally repugnant, and I have never enjoyed being physical with a white guy.Finally, I met this gorgeous Korean guy, who showed me what I had been missing. His skin was so soft, smooth and this beautiful brown. His kiss was electrifying and his eyes were absolutely beautiful. It was everything I had been missing. I have only dated guys who's heritage has been from East Asia (Korea, China, Philippines) since then (I'm 22 now).I know it's wrong to judge based on race, cos it doesn't exist biologically. I'm in university for social sciences, and my sisters a social sciences grad student, and she thinks I should try dating a non-asian guy. But honestly, I'm just not that attracted to non-east asian guys. I also find that white men get so angry and insulted when they learn about this, which makes me like them even less.Also, why is it fine for white guys to date non white girls, but as soon as a white girl dates a non white guy, everyone has a fit?? Another complication is that I'm studying East Asia, speak Japanese and some Korean, so everyone just assumes I watch too much anime. Apparently I can like these guys as long as I'm not interested in their culture, or I'm fetishizing them. Why does physical attraction = fetish for so many people? GAH. Also, I'd love it if some academics would weigh in.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2010): I think people who object and are negative and make sad comments about you liking Asian guys are probably just jealous white, non-Asian guys or people with generally racist attitudes towards Asian guys.
Show those stupid, ignorant people.
Enjoy that gorgeous Korean guy ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2009): I love Asian boys too! (Am an Asian female haha)ATM the media and society in general are completely sad to Asian boys. Asian guys are so underappreciated at the moment- definitely the most out of all races and genders in my opinion. Notice that the only Asian guys you see on screen are nerds, weirdos, freaks, science/maths guys, comical ninja guys, badies etc. and are hardly ever shown as the Hot Guy or the Hero (in fact can you even think of ONE movie in which there is an Asian guy with a full role that isn't being degraded in some way?)I know Asian guys have to deal with a lot of unfair, stereotyping, racist sorts of comments and treatments. (I know this because I have a lot of Asian guy friends and just because I generally see it). Comments you will probably be familiar with- such as jokes about Asian nerds or the size of an Asian guys dick...Most of these sorts of comments and treatment I've observed generally comes from white males too. Seems quite a lot like jealously to me. White guys will feel threatened by the concept of Asian guys going out with 'their' White girls so they make these dumb, degrading comments to sort of push Asian guys down 'keep them in their place' as one white guy told me when I asked why he made those comments all the time. Also a lot of white guys I know like to make out that all Asian girls love White guys and want to be with White guys not Asian guys- because 'nobody wants to be with Asian guys' as I've heard white guys telling me before. Haha and I like seeing their faces when I stand up for Asian guys and tell them differently. These are probably of the reasons why you feel weird about liking them- because the media and society are telling you not to.So to summon up my rant which went kinda off-track (or did it?) ... if you like Asian boys... LIKE THEM :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2009): I prefer East Asian men aswell. I can see why some people would see it as racist but it's just the same as liking blondes more than brunettes. It's just personal preferance. There's nothing wrong with it at all. I don't understand how it's okay for a white woman to marry a black guy but when it's a Japanese man it's wrong. But ah well that's people for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionarg..I thought I was clear that I'm 'going for it' by my dating history, and I'm fine with 'inter-racial'/inter-cultural dating and marriage. Just..sort of wondering if it's wrong to prefer one race.I'm not really asking 'is it bad that I like asian guys'...it's more of..'is it racist to prefer one 'race' to another, when race is only a cultural creation in the first place!'my point would be that, isn't it inherently racist to prefer one race to another? I mean technically, I'm being racist towards white men. I also am concerned that it's seen like a fetish.Also I'm having issues dealing with people who just assume it's some sort of fetish, have a negative reaction, or ask really rude questions (any one who's ever dated an asian guy knows exactly which questions I mean.)
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2009): Speaking as a Korean male myself, I wish there were more people like you on our planet.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2008): Honey, there is nothing wrong with liking asian boys! People will always find somehting to criticise, my bf is a redhead and I love it, I think he's totally gorgeous, but Ive got friend and family who take the piss all the time!
Dont let other peoples silly judgements stop you from being happy! Everyone has different attractions and you cant really help that... :)
My best friend is married to a japanese man, and he makes her more happy than anyone shes ever been with and they have the most adorable little boy! :)
So no worries, ok! And about the anime thing, so long as you dont sit there ant talk to people about anime for hours on and (which is what one girl at uni does to me) then no one should care whether or not u watch it. And from your post it seems like you dont, so dont let these people get to you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2008): here in new zealand heaps of people have gf/bfs of a different race
im a white as guy and i used to like white girls but now im so into asian girls i think their really sexy with their soft brown skin and all that like you said about asians
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (14 December 2008):
 So what is the problem? If you prefer Asian men, go for it. We would have no problem with that in Texas. LOL
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